<p>I feel for you perfectwall... sometimes it feels like we're walking on eggshells around our kids, and of course, there's absolutely no reason for it! I have never felt so unsure of myself until this summer when every thing I wear seems to be a fashion NO in my D's eyes. The other night she suggested her dad do the dishes (the dad who worked his butt off all day, then took us all to a movie!) when she was asked to do the chore. It hurts when they behave badly -- I wonder to myself, how did I raise such a person? did I do such a bad job? But I know there's more going on than meets the eye. She is afraid. She feels pressure to know what she wants to be, to succeed, and she wants to stay in the safety of our home. The reasons for acting out may be different for each student, but they all do have reasons. It doesn't mean we should take it; we must insist on respect, good manners, a decent attitude in the home. But you're not alone, it's a fairly common response to this time in their life. Good luck!</p>