<p>Kate-- If you can I would definitely suggest staying off face book. Knowing we respect their privacy is a big step toward creating the new relationship all parties want. I know it's tempting, but more gratifying to resist and gain ground with comments like, "Although I have my own facebook account that makes it so easy for me to log onto yours I have decided not too. It's your thing." It may be hard, but reaps emotional dividends.</p>
<p>Strange to say, I think they are actually worried about us -- how we will fare without them. They feel guilty because they know they are going toward something fun, and we are being left behind to do the work of earning the money for it. Any displays (sometimes exaggerated) of wonderful things in my life I was looking forward to helped.</p>
<p>Good luck! Yes, it's all SO normal and difficult to live thriugh.</p>