<p>Wow, thanks for everyone’s input. Coming here really helps.</p>
<p>I talked to my wife about it this evening briefly. The whole ‘sit down and explain the option lunch’ is kind of what I want to do, but while my wife agrees that we can take her with us, she knows her mom well and states that she would not want to go OOS.</p>
<p>I’m not insinuating that she can’t take care of herself or needs looking after, but she won’t exactly be getting in better health over the next several years (she just happen to go to the doctor today too because she has a cold). She does have signs of age like high blood pressure (medicated). She’ll need someone. She would feel alone (although she already does since H has been gone). She’s ALWAYS had someone around her, someone with her. My wife lived at home with her during her whole time in college because where she went was close enough.</p>
<p>I think deciding where I go to college for the next few years is a big decision, financially and family-wise, so I wouldn’t be embarrassed or worried about trying not to offend her by asking her to do something like that. As soon as her cold is away my wife and I have agreed to sit and talk to her about it all. It’s just a drag because Bama is a great school, even more so that it would be at no cost to me.</p>
<p>kelsmom, thanks, that helps. A LOT. I would be taking my education seriously and in the end (if nothing changes) that is what I will need to do for the fam: choose what WILL work. Decision time is getting really close too.</p>
<p>You all have been great to lend advice. Thanks again.</p>