Isolated because I can't get into clubs

College Life
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<p>I skipped first grade. This means that, as a freshman in college, I"m only 17 and don't turn 18 until April. Hence, I cannot go clubbing for another 6 months. This sucks, because I like dancing and flirting and am basically the clubbing type of girl.
Before school started, I thought that, although this sucks, it wouldn't be such a huge problem because I'm at UF, the biggest party school in the nation, and I figured on-campus parties would be a big thing. I found that to not be the case--everyone I know either never wants to go to frat parties (which I have connections to because one of my roomates is in a sorority), or, the 2 times we're gone to find one, nothing has been very active.</p>

<p>Tonight, there was a dance party with a costume contest in the basement of my dorm. I dressed up all wacky and went with some friends on my floor--there was good rap music, dancing, etc, and it was a lot of fun. But around 10:30, everyone started clearing out to go clubbing. This is the 3rd time that all my friends have hit the clubs and I"ve ended up sitting in my dorm before 11 PM. I know it sounds petty, but it really does hurt and I end up feeling excluded and like a loser who has no life....sort of like a 3rd grader wanting to hang out with the big kids but can't.</p>

<p>BTW, I know the obvious answer to this is "fake ID." But, the town I'm in is pretty strict, and I"ve known people who've gotten in trouble over having fakes. If I made a fake there's a large chance I'd get in legal trouble over it and I don't want to risk that.</p>

<p>Also, I'm in a permanent triple, and the other 2 roomates have known each other since high school. They went to the same HS and I didn't, so they hang out together and talk about people they know from their social group, and even though they don't seem to mind me, I feel like a third wheel. I live on a floor that has a lot of sophomores who know each other from last year, and freshman who are best friends from HS, and I don't have those deep connections with anyone. I have some friends who I hang out with, but I'm not super close to any of them, and whenever we hang out, I'm always the one who calls them up or sends a facebook message to make plans.</p>

<p>I know I just sound like a huge loser right now and there's nothing specific that I"m really asking from anyone...but any advice on how to not end up feeling excluded all the time? And with the clubbing thing, maybe some alt. plans that I could suggest to my friends, where we could all have just as much fun and I'd be included?</p>

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<p>Wow look at this girl she doesn’t even go to clubs what a loser.</p>

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<p>Make friends with people who live off campus and throw parties.</p>

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<p>Looks like the end of the world because this girl cannot get into a nightclub.</p>

<p>Seriously, people like you make life much more enjoyable.</p>

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<p>DZ: Discovery Zone? Zainy Brainy?
(Do these even exist anymore?)</p>

<p>No, I’m kidding. If they’re your friends, they shouldn’t object too much to taking at least one night or so off a week to do something you can participate in. </p>

<p>I mean, if it were one of my friends, I’d try to include her sometimes…assuming I didn’t secretly dislike her and was purposefully trying to ditch her.</p>

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<p>kickbacks? meet people in extracurricular clubs lol or meet the people in your dorm that are there when everyone else is out at clubs</p>

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<p>Really? Put on some make up, wear a hot outfit and they won’t even card.</p>

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<p>Get a fake and you’ll be good to go. I skipped 1st grade too and had no problems with clubbing, as long as I had my fake.</p>

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<p>I was in the same boat as you freshman year, although clubbing wasn’t as big at my school, it was still annoying. 2 options:</p>

<p>1) I had a friend whose birthday was in november (i.e. 11/17/90) so she chalked out the first 1 on her birthdate so it read 1/17/90. Would you be able to do that?</p>

<p>2) Seriously, getting into a 18+ club is NOT THE SAME THING as trying to get into a bar with alcohol, pretending you’re 21 to get served. That’s illegal. the 18+ thing is pretty much just a safety measure. If they caught you with a fake that said you were 18 I swear to you they probably would not care. And would not be paying attention to it enough to even realize it was fake anyway since you’re under 21, you’re just a cover charge to them.</p>

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<p>Try to find a 17+ club. Yes, they do exist. I’m going to one tonight (I’m 18 though so for me it doesn’t matter). And as others have said, if you look hot, they’ll let you in w/o carding. Or you can get a fake, but those are expensive.</p>

<p>If you don’t want to do that, why not go to parties? Does your school have frats or athletic houses or anything? My school doesn’t have frats, but there are always parties at the athletic houses which are off campus.</p>

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<p>what the hell is a 18+ club?</p>

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<p>One that admits 18 year olds? Most clubs, at least here in NYC, let 18 yr olds in, but you have to be 21 to drink. They’ll separate you by wristbands, stamps, tickets, w/e.</p>

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<p>wowwww wish I knew that when I was in NYC.</p>

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<p>Have an older friend or sibling give you their expired or current ID. Reimburse them the fee and hassle of getting a new one.</p>

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<p>ever heard the saying ‘can’t never could do anything?’</p>

<p>Besides, doesn’t your school have a danceing club or something… you could join it to satisfy your danceing needs…</p>

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<p>lololol head over here to Beaty Towers and we can get crunk and dance all night</p>

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<p>The Kitty is back. All is well in Gator Nation!</p>

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<p>Either get a fake or get your ID chalked. It shouldn’t be that hard to get into an 18+ club.</p>

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<p>Haha thanks guys! And I don’t mean to sound like a whiny loser about the club thing, because it’s not just about that. It’s mainly about feeling like a 3rd wheel/outsider a lot–I’m not by any means “best friends” with any of my friends, whenever we hang out I’m the one who initiates it, maybe just because it’s the beginning of the year and I haven’t had time to form deep friendships after only a few months. Which is completely understandable in itself–but it seems like everyone around me DOES have close friendships and I feel really left out sometimes. And at the time I posted this, I was really upset because, like I said, I was with some people and they all went clubbing, leaving me to pretend that it was fine and that I had plans later, too, but really I sat in my dorm room at 11 PM when everyone else was just beginning their night on the town. So, more left out-ness…lol…
Sorry for this rant!
Btw, my birthday is 04/28/1992. So I don’t see how chalking would work.</p>

<p>Hurley, nice to see you again too! :wink: Glad I improved your day here in the Swamp.</p>

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<p>Kitty: Thre is no way I would let a charming personable coed like yourself sit all alone in that boring dorm room at 11:00 pm after being deserted by your roomies. That is just plain wrong.</p>

<p>Truly an oversight by the undeserving.</p>