Hello, I am currently a Senior in the process of writing my college essays. I’ve taken the advice of almost every college advisor out there and wrote essays that I believed were accurate to me.
However, my controlling and neurotic parents vehemently disagree with what I wrote. Whenever I show them my own essays, or make my own changes to the essays they want me to write that aren’t in line with what they believe is “correct” they become very verbally abusive. They insult me, my accomplishments, my personality, and they like to go on about how I’ll just end up going to a bad school, get a bad job, and never succeed in life and that no one will ever want to work with someone as “rude” and “aggressive” person as me. They will go into my essays while I’m not working on them and make their own changes without telling me. Since both of them are asian immigrants, their writing is very poor. My parents have hired multiple essay advisors, and then fired them when they suggested something they disagreed with.
I’m not sure what I can do. If I go with what they want, I’m certain that my essays will be of very low quality, but it’s just so emotionally and mentally draining to have to fight with them for every little change I want to make, and it might not even matter since they will change it anyway.