That’s my point @materof2 - It doesn’t have to feel that way if we set our kids up for knowing from the beginning that it truly isn’t personal!
@sorghum - yes, there are always smarter, more talented, richer, more attractive, etc… However, when it comes to college admission, it sometimes truly isn’t that the spot went to smarter and more talented. It could have been just as likely a spot to a student with a niche interest that filled out the school’s class better.