<p>I’m sure it’ll get better and theyll soon get over it…all I need to worry about is going to CC, volunteering maybe, getting a job, SELF-IMPROVEMENT…</p>
<p>Unless there were “distractions” at your first college that accounted for your issues, CC is still college…still requires, reading, writing, studying. Make sure reading, writing and studying is not the problem before you jump into a CC.</p>
<p>I think you need to figure out what happened.
Did you have too much free time & thought you could catch up?
Uninteresting courses and boring to study?
Moving at too fast of a pace and got behind?
Were you taking too many credits for your comfort?</p>
<p>Figuring out what happened is critical so you can have a more successful academic career.</p>
<p>remember, you’ve known all along what is going on – they just found out. It will take them a little time to adjust. Don’t plan too much. Try and take little success-steps and see how things unfold. I think you should aim to go back to the school you started at when you feel ready. You haven’t done anything to be ashamed of — you don’t have a substance abuse problem, you don’t have moral issues, you haven’t injured anyone, you aren’t a felon…you tried something, and it hasn’t worked out right away. Failure is when you quit, not when you keep trying and learning. You would be astonished at how many people struggle, and how much they struggle. Go to CC, get some stable footing, learn some good habits and ignore the old bad ones, and then decide from there. Give yourself some time and distance from all this before you try and analyze it all too much. You are young. There is time to breathe and feel safe again. Best of luck</p>
<p>boring classes, got behind with all the work…I have to learn “how to study”…it may sound stupid but I was never good at studying</p>
<p>OP, are you suspended or academically dismissed? There is a difference. Can you appeal your suspension? Have you discussed this with your academic advisor at the college to see what the procedures are for appeal? </p>
<p>What are the terms of your suspension? Do you have to reapply to the college, or just take a temporary leave of absence? Will CC credits transfer back to your college?</p>
<p>And of course, the real question is: do you want to return to your college at all? Are you secretly relieved that it’s all over and the truth is out? Your parents will probably be angry at you for a while. But perhaps you also need to be honest with yourself about whether college is for you right now.</p>
<p>I am suspended but I don’t know what the difference is…I don’t know anything about repealing yet, meeting with my advisor in January</p>
<p>CC credits transfer but not the gpa…I have to reapply</p>
<p>My Mom says to get an associate’s but my Dad is saying to sit out a semester to reapply somewhere else/or same school…theyre both unsure</p>
<p>Im not sure what to do…I would like to go to school after a couple of years but culture, environment , circumstances, etc are telling me to go now</p>
<p>Yes, you can recover. I know of kids who were on probation who came back strong and went on to grad school, BUT you need to make a clean break in your record. There should be the bad time, then all the good times once you figured out the issue. Do NOT begin new classes until you are ready to make things different. Perhaps work for a term or two, full time, go back when you are ready to make a fresh start and get all As. A CC may have an easier group of fellow students, but you still have to do all your work, do it well and turn it in on time, or you will see Cs & Ds there. So, plan ahead, prepare yourself and once you begin again, do well. Maybe you only take a couple of classes the first term? Just make sure you get As and keep getting them. Then the university to which you apply for transfer will see that you have figured out the issues and corrected them</p>
<p>Suspension means that you probably have to take a leave of absence but can return to the school without having to reapply for admission. It’s better than dismissal, which is being booted out. Many schools offer a one-time appeal for suspension. It’s good that you have an appointment with your advisor. I recommend contacting him now (ASAP) before January if possible to confirm the appointment and also to find out what your possible outcomes are at your current school. Make sure that the January appointment is not scheduled too late for an appeal, if your school will permit one.</p>
<p>If you transfer to another college, any courses in which you got less than a C will probably not transfer. You will, however, start with a fresh GPA.</p>
<p>If you stay at your school and want to raise your GPA, you will probably have to retake some of your very low-grade courses and that will take more time. Many schools allow students to retake D and F graded courses.</p>
<p>If you don’t know why you are in school, and you’re not able to focus on doing the work, it will be a waste of time and money no matter where you go. I agree with the other people here who have said that it’s time for some honesty with yourself. Good luck to you.</p>
<p>Some people just need a wake-up call and can go on to succeed even at the same college. They might need to switch to a major that interests them more, be more mindful of scheduling too many difficult or time-consuming courses together, or just adjust their attitude. Sometimes switching colleges is appropriate as well but not always and it doesn’t necessarily solve the issues.</p>
<p>I see a lot of worrying in your posts about what other people think - your parents, family, friends. I agree with P3T about the concern of your statement about your parents wanting you to perhaps switch colleges because some of these people you know go to yours. That doesn’t make any sense. There’s no reason for you to not continue where you are assuming the college will permit it, you’ve figured out what the issues are and correct them, and apply yourself. I don’t see why having family and friends attending the same college is a factor at all unless they’re somehow causing you to not study or something. </p>
<p>Your college career isn’t about your friends, your family, or your parents. It’s about ‘you’ and that’s where you should focus. You need to focus on what you want to do and what interests you - not what your parents want you to do or any kind of image or ‘status’ to project to anyone else. Could this be part of the problem?</p>
<p>If your parents are paying for college then you have an obligation to them to keep them apprised of your progress since it can impact their pocketbook but aside from that your college career is ‘yours’ - not theirs.</p>
<p>I don’t think I can appeal it…nothing on the school website says so and my advisor mentioned everything but it</p>
<p>I just need to show I’ve changed and then I can enroll in fall 2012</p>
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<p>Probably this is exactly what this means. Cultural sensitivities might mean that OP will have to suck it up to help the family save face in this particular set of circumstances by going to a different school at least in the interim. I don’t think that is for debate, it is perhaps just the way it is. </p>
<p>Profound - are you seeing any extended family over the next few weeks? If so, I suspect you and your parents will want to formulate some “party line” that you all agree will be communicated to these wider family members/friends. Perhaps an option could be to engage in some volunteer work during the spring semester or perhaps help out somewhere within the family here in the US or elsewhere. That might buy your family time to figure out what is best for them going forward and for you to contemplate where you want to go from here. Sometimes involvement with a charity/religious/community/family venture sparks a passion for an undiscovered talent or interest.</p>
<p>Also, as another poster said, your parents are going to be trying to figure things out, what to say to everyone about the situation. They’re figuring it out too so it’s expected their emotions are going to be oscillating over the next few days. At this point, try to do what you can to be helpful around the house, work with them on what is to be said to the wider family members, and see what might make sense in terms of spring semester. My sense is you need at least a semester to kind of take stock of things since you have expressed an uncertaintly about returning immediately. </p>
<p>Good Luck to you and let us know how things turn out.</p>
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Oh I understand he’d need to go elsewhere in the interim, likely to a community college to rebuild his academic record and learn to study more effectively which he says was his difficulty. I may have misunderstood but I was puzzled at why his parents would rule out his returning to his original college someday in the future, once he had demonstrated the improvement and original college allowed him back. At that point, as GladGradDad expressed well, I don’t see why “family/friends” should be reason to bar him from a return.</p>
<p>OP, when your parents’ ideas for what to do next cause you confusion or anxiety, perhaps you can say kindly, “I’m setting up an appointment with my college administrator to get more information on all my options.” That will at least delay the swirl of conversations, if they upset you right now. In fact, you can look at what your parents say as also gathering information – about how they feel or perceive things, not as instruction for what you will do next.</p>
<p>The college administrator might be someone to ask for a professional’s opinion about what kinds of things to do next (volunteer, work, study, take study skills workshops at the CC…) to address what you see as the main difficulty (study skills). Also, how long others have taken in similar situations. I’m not sure you need to wait out “a couple of years” to regain some traction here. </p>
<p>Upthread you mentioned some conjecture about attention difficulties. You might use the time home to get a good medical check-up that includes everything: eyes, thyroid, mental health, and even a quick-and-dirty assessment by the PCP of whether you might need to look into ADD further. Some students don’t get diagnosed until college, especially if they are bright and kind of sailed through high school without developing real study habits. Also see if you want to go into getting a psych assesment for a Learning Disability. If there are large gaps in subtest scores, you might be pressuring yourself in odd ways to compensate for the gaps. Those things sometimes cause the ‘boredom/dodging classes’ thing you described earlier. Use the semester well, but include a medical/psychological check-in while you’re home, too. It might shed some light. If not, you’ll be glad to know you’re super healthy and well.</p>
<p>Thanks for all the suggestions…Will any college accept me (after I get As in a community college) with a gpa lower than 2.0?</p>
<p>I have to reassess my life goals and priorities…I need to figure out how to study and get my motivation up. I think 2 of the main reasons I’m in this situation is: No Motivation because I chose some major last minute…boring classes,etc and I never developed efficient study habits because high school was a breeze for me…</p>
<p>your question post 54 has already been answered.
Show the sharp and steady rebound by excelling at cc, and it will demonstrate a finding of and successful solution to the problem. That would be impressive. If you skip cc, or do only so-so, then it isn’t so impressive.
It would be much like the “before” and “after” photos in ads.</p>
<p>Walter Pauk and Dave Ellis both have good books on study skills. You might take a look at them.</p>
<p>Also, do your homework on where students from your CC go from there. Make sure that you take classes that will transfer. One of the biggest problems I see with CC students is that they do not take responsibility for their education and end up taking classes that will not do them any good when they transfer. I would get right back in to school at a CC rather than taking a semester off and trying to transfer to another four-year school. You might also be able to take a study skills class at your local CC.</p>
<p>If you turn things around and get good grades at a community college, good schools will certainly take you seriously as a candidate. Some will pass on you for sure, but others will be happy to have you. You only need one after all. </p>
<p>Focus on what is real, and this time do it for yourself. Actually become someone you know would be a huge asset to any college community, and you will give yourself the gift of confidence. Knowing beyond a reasonable doubt that you are ready, and believing in yourself with complete certainty, is where you want to be before going back to a competitive four year university. At that point you will have some good choices.</p>