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How do you define “extremely uncomfortable”? You need to specify (and clarify). What if a person was uncomfortable due to some medical conditions or has some bad memories associated with alcohol? Hmmm…</p>
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<p>Now, are you happy? Or are you willing to type up like a 10 paged, single space paper for one of my future political science classes (elective)?</p>
<p><strong>“It does”</strong>
What does? LOL.</p>
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<p><strong>Unwelcome parent advice</strong> Before you get involved with faculty (including TAs), check the college’s rules. At most schools, this sort of thing is strictly forbidden and could get the TA in alot of trouble.</p>
<p>In regards to alcohol we only mean this post: "Yes, I do agree with you a lot that the average male range in the 18-23 range is very immature. However, having said that, I never go to parties, don’t attend any undergraduate clubs "
where you basically imply that because you don’t go to parties, or clubs you’re more mature than the average college male.</p>
<p>Also, yes accepting alcohol use in other people despite bad past experience or an illness (short of an airborne allergy) is called tolerance, and it is a desirable traits in mature adults.</p>
<p>^ Clarification: Tolerance of alcohol in respect to what? You would “tolerate” by saying that you accept an 18 year-old going binge-drinking, drunk and throwing up on your apartment doorstep eveyday? I wouldn’t tolerate that. Intolerance does not mean complaining, whining, etc of the presence of alcohol.</p>
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<p>When was the last time you saw a 35-year old going drunk and throwing up on campus property? Intolerance does not mean complaining, whining, etc of the presence of alcohol, but rather, a distaste for it (in reference to that age range drinking). I don’t like alcohol is a personal preference, just as much as how smoking is one’s personal preference despite the associated health risks/costs. Would you say that “smoking” is “mature”? It simply means that not liking it and if there’s a throng of people in a bar or drunk approaching you, you don’t comfort them and say “alcohol is bad…blah blah blah”, but rather walking away from them unless the effects of drinking (damaging property, throwing up on public/private property, disturbing the right to quiet enjoyment, etc) is affecting one’s life.</p>
<p>@LasMa: Thanks for the reminder. Yes, I’ve looked at the university policies regarding relationships. I believe that they only prohibit relationships where a person has an educational responsibility over the student. One of the major reasons why I’m posting here is because of the fact that she is (“was” - soon) my TA.</p>
<p>put it in her</p>
<p>When did this become about parenting? Of course it’s completely different if it’s your child binge drinking, but since you’re at the most twenty I really hope it’s not your child binge drinking. I’m saying that your completely judgmental attitude is immature on it’s own. I never claimed drinking made you mature or immature, I said that a) your assertion that by not drinking you’re somehow superior to others your own age and b) your inability to tolerate (possibly just perceived) faults in others makes you less mature than you claim to be.
And the fact that you can only defend yourself with ridiculous statements like “When was the last time you saw a 35-year old going drunk and throwing up on campus property?” Only hurts you. I’ll glaze over trying to grammatically point out what’s wrong with that statement because you obviously don’t take criticism well so I would like to give a smaller dose if possible. First off, why is there a 35 year old on “campus property” (a redundant phrase by the way) at all if not working there? Of course you don’t see thirty-five year old men on campus getting drunk, he would be suspected of something called “statutory rape” or “pedophilia” or “being a creepy ass ****”…All terms you seem unfamiliar with, or don’t care if your TA–who you claim to care about --is labeled with.
And the rest of your post was too much of a grammatical mess for me to actually decipher and answer.</p>
<p>^ This is only an online forum. Again, we’re not writing a dissertation here. A 35-year old could be a university professor, graduate student, etc. I’ve never thought to the extent of having a 35-year old being suspected of “statutory rape” or “pedophilia”. What are you, an ignorant American without any knowledge/insight on international affairs?</p>
<p>EDIT: My judgmental views are my own and I do not express those out in public. Will you call a Japanese businessman “judgmental” for refusing to do business with you because of how the average American expects/behaves in a bar? Or how manners are different (talking on your cellphone on a subway)? I am more appalled that you are more interested in correcting grammar, spelling, etc that contributing to the forum in a constructive, civil manner.</p>
<p>Dude, give it up, you have no chance with this TA. </p>
<p>Your imagination is getting the best of you. Don’t flatter yourself, she was NOT making eye contact with you. The fact that she wouldnt give you her IM or add you as a friend, she’s letting you off easy. </p>
<p>Walk away now, before you get too mentally involved, and your imagination get the best of you. Find a dark, quiet spot and rub one off.</p>
<p>^ She friended me on Facebook.</p>
<p>Why is it that desperate people think that someone FRIENDing them on Facebook is an automatic indicator that a person is romantically interested in them? It’s creepy and pathetic.</p>
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On campus property? Probably not, but do you really think that no 35 year old drinks to excess? Hell, plenty of 50 year olds drink to excess, and yes, that sometimes involves puking and a hangover.</p>
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No, but the fact that you are so incredibly judgmental of those who choose to drink/smoke is very immature. DARE’s condemnation was unsuccessful, what makes you think you’re any different? Alcohol exists in this world and you need to get over that.</p>
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…Yes? Absolutely. That is, by definition, prejudice.</p>
<p>Gosh, I wish I knew the name of this TA so I could message her and suggest that she “defriend” this kid ASAP. </p>
<p>OP–When someone “friends” you on FB, it’s not to be interpreted as the person being interested in dating you. </p>
<p>You appear to be infatuated with her, not in love with her. You can’t be in love with someone without first having a healthy and intimate relationship with the person.</p>
<p>Please leave the TA alone. You sound a bit obsessive and I must admit, your words give off a weird vibe to me. If you really care about this person, consider “defriending” her on FB for your sake and hers. I have visions of you spending way too much time stalking her on FB.
Delete her so the temptation to FB stalk her can’t be fulfilled.</p>
<p>^ I think everyone has taken the posts too seriously. I have no interest in Facebook stalking.</p>
<p>^^^ Prejudice? It isn’t racism. It’s culture. Western and Asian culture can be very different, or at polar opposites that may cause you to think one way when something isn’t like that.</p>
<p>…You did not really say anything in that post. Judgment based solely on a stereotype rather than a person’s own character is, by definition, prejudice. It’s not racism because, in this hypothetical scenario, the Japanese businessman would be judging based on the country in which one resides rather than ethnicity, hence why I said prejudice and not racist.</p>
<p>People have taken your posts too seriously? You say you’re in love with someone with whom you have no relationship. That’s behavior that middle schoolers should exhibit, not someone in college. Seek therapy, because you clearly have problems that go deeper than an unfulfilled desire for your TA.</p>
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<p>Thought =/= behavior.</p>
<p>“This is only an online forum. Again, we’re not writing a dissertation here. A 35-year old could be a university professor, graduate student, etc. I’ve never thought to the extent of having a 35-year old being suspected of “statutory rape” or “pedophilia”. What are you, an ignorant American without any knowledge/insight on international affairs?”</p>
<p>If there was a 35 year old partying on a college campus, yes. That is exactly what people would think.
What does a) being American or b) international affairs have to do with any of this?</p>
<p>“EDIT: My judgmental views are my own and I do not express those out in public. Will you call a Japanese businessman “judgmental” for refusing to do business with you because of how the average American expects/behaves in a bar? Or how manners are different (talking on your cellphone on a subway)?”
Yes</p>
<p>"I am more appalled that you are more interested in correcting grammar, spelling, etc that contributing to the forum in a constructive, civil manner. "</p>
<p>Appalled that I commented on your grammar in a place where you are only represented by writing? Well, I apologize. I’ll start being constructive…if only I had a creepy crush to ask strangers about.</p>