I've got a question!

<p>So I'm confused about the behavior of one of my guy friends, and was wondering if any of you could clear things up for me from an outsiders' perspective, or just let me know if I'm overthinking things. :)</p>

<p>Let me explain the kind of scenario I'm talking about. So, my best friends at college are a guy and a girl, so we form a trio. During the first part of the year, the two of them spent a lot of time together, and rumors started flying that they were dating, and since I myself had a crush on him, I was obviously jealous of them, even though I didn't say anything to either of them. However, I was beginning to feel like the third wheel, and at one point, I just couldn't take it anymore, so I confronted the other girl. It turned out that she liked him but that he didn't like her, and she didn't know how he felt. To make a long story short, he rejected her because he didn't feel that he was ready for a girlfriend, and started hanging out more with me, but once they resolved the awkwardness that had existed between them, he started paying less attention to me again, and I didn't say anything for a month, but again, I couldn't hold it in anymore.</p>

<p>So I sent him this really long, *****y email that in retrospect sounds pretty ridiculous, but I pretty much accused him of being a horrible friend and putting in no effort into the friendship. Obviously, since this seemed to come out of left field, he had no idea how to respond, and I was about to give up the friendship, but I realized that I didn't want that to happen, so I apologized to him for blowing up at him and he told me it was no problem, and everything went back to normal after that. I figured the trio was back, and it really was. I didn't feel like the third wheel anymore--I felt like we were all on equal ground.</p>

<p>But then, fast forward to after spring break, and all of a sudden, he began paying more attention to me. At one point, we spent an entire night just talking until 4 in the morning, just the two of us, and since then, he's been doing all those things I complained that he never did before--he answers all my texts, he calls me, he actually visits my room, and pretty much does all the things that I did before but he never did in return. It's really nice and I'm enjoying the friendship, but it's bewildering, because I'm wondering what triggered the change in his behavior. I've had conversations with him and the other girl until late into the night before, but nothing changed then. So why the shift in behavior? I mean, I'm not complaining at all, but I was just wondering why he'd suddenly do such a 180. </p>

<p>Any thoughts? Guys? Your perspective? I can elaborate more on certain stuff if you all need me to.</p>

<p>It’s pretty hard to say without knowing what you look like, what he looks like, and how good he is with women (serious). That behavior can stem from a number of things, but the motivation for it can be completely different.</p>

<p>This ^^^^^^</p>

<p>threes company</p>

<p>He’s really good looking, but he doesn’t know it. People have told me after I introduce them to him that they were shocked at how cute he is (this mostly from girls). As for me, I’d say that I’m average looking, at best. I’d never win any beauty contests, which I’m okay with, but yeah, he’s definitely much more attractive than I am.</p>

<p>As for how good he is with women, he rejected my other friend because he thinks that he screws up with girls everytime he tries dating them. This was back in February, though, so I don’t know if his mindset has changed much.</p>

<p>I think you were jealous that he was paying attention to your other friend.</p>

<p>“I was obviously jealous of them”</p>

<p>Shocking analysis dionte.</p>

<p>Pink, I wouldn’t worry about it. It could be anything from him deciding he likes you as more than a friend to him deciding he really wants to remain friends with you so he’ll do the stuff you asked. Wait to see if he makes a move.</p>

<p>there’s an obvious solution to this problem that will resolve all of your sexual tension and jealously towards each other.</p>

<p>have a threesome.</p>