<p>kinshasa,</p>
<p>Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you as you assist your son in his struggle through young adulthood. May you both find a bright future and much peace and love on the other side. fondly, ~berurah</p>
<p>Gosh, I've been overseas. Did Jamimom's MT S get into Yale????</p>
<p>As far as kids outgrowing misbehavior--soemtimes they do, and sometimes they don't. There are some errors that cannot be glossed over. Alcoholism, drug addiction, babies born etc. There are health breaks that cannot be cured. Life can be hard as well as joyfull.</p>
<p>H and I look at our parents and realize we must conserve strength for our seventies. A parent's job is never done.</p>
<p>Yep, and so he won't be MT if he goes there, and I think he will go: I certainly hope so. After sinking about $7500 and a dozen auditions all scheduled from Oct-Dec, he wll probably go to as school he has not even visited! I think his app stood out there because all the great MT kids were busy competing against each other among the few MT schools and not bothering with the ivies. (Actually, it was a bit more than that--he had an inside advocate there and his test scores were golden--just the grades were inconsistent and he did have some other things that could have been an issue). I have gotten a tutor for him to get him through January since he is sitting with a D and a C in two of his courses from first quarter, and he HAS to get those grades up at midterm and we'll have to ride him throughout the year on that. And if he stays out of trouble, we just might make it with him.</p>
<p>Thought I would get out of flying and driving in snow country in January by doing all of the auditions early, but I have just booked a flight to Ohio to talk to someone at the med school where D applied, will visit S1 in his new digs and fill his larders, drive to D's college and spend some time with her as I have not spoken to her alone for over a year with the fiancee always with her. Then will meet up with old friends in Pittsburgh. Two of them are very ill and not expected to make it through 2005. Both great women who were divorced in the last 10 years and then became ill, one with recurrent breast cancer, the other with heart problems. A bunch of us have set up a collection for them to help them get by these last couple of years as they are on food stamps. These women gave their all to their children and spouses and are now all alone. My friend from Westchester whose son is at CMU will meet me in Pittsburgh when she drives her son back and she too knows these women so we will spend some time with them and then drive back to the east coast together in a one way rental I am picking up in Ohio and using to take to Pittsburgh. A prayer from all who care for women to these great women who really should not be spending their last days like this on the charity of friends.</p>
<p>And a prayer for the friends who are charitable enough to help.</p>
<p>Prayers abounding, Jamimom, to you, to your family, and to your friends who are in ill health. May they feel the presence of the fullness of life. Blessings to you.</p>
<p>Sounds like a fun trip. Those one-on-one trips are so much fun for children in a big family. I'm hoping to visit Aix-en-Provence with my mum in the late Spring. My mum who has studied French for thirty years.</p>
<p>I know your friends will be thrilled to see you too.</p>
<p>And good luck with formerly MT--now Yalie son! Thank God for tutors, eh?</p>
<p>Jamimom, best wishes for you and those you love. I always read every word (never skim) your posts because they contain so much wisdom, sanity and empathy.</p>
<p>More prayers and thoughts from me.<br>
LA</p>
<p>Susan-hope you don't get too much rain on your trip.</p>