<p>Hey guys! I can't believe I just found this website. Anyway, HELP:</p>
<p>So I'm an upcoming sophomore at Notre Dame. For my entire semester, I absolutely hated Notre Dame. I wanted to be back home (Baltimore area) to be with my family, friends, etc, and would have absolutely loved to study at Hopkins! I felt as though the academics here at ND weren't as phenomenal as that at Hopkins.. (i still feel that way). So in February I met the most amazing guy who really helped me thru my struggles. We've been dating and I can't think of spending my life with anyone else.. (yes, i know.. i'm young. but we both have a christian background and values.. and, i can see myself marrying him. not now, but maybe after college or grad school). so I recently got admitted to JHU with about the same aid that I have here at ND. I don't really know what I would study exactly, but I feel that I can be successful at both schools. BUT WHAT SHOULD I DO?! I want to be with my boyfriend and I don't want to be miserable @ JHU like I was at ND for the first semester. But at the same time, I don't want to forget how miserable and how much I hated ND? I'm so stuck! This is crazy. What should I do? Help? :'(</p>
<p>If it helps, my parents would love for me to come back home. I know that I would have an amazing time being with my boyfriend next semester and the years to come at ND, and that the transition to JHU will be extremely tough for me. At the same time, I feel that JHU will better equip me for my career goals.
Thank you everyone.</p>
<p>Hopkins for sure. If you really feel that strongly about your boyfriend, you’ll make it work.</p>
<p>Don’t sacrifice your academic or professional future for something that might not be permanent. I have heard way too many stories of people staying somewhere for their boyfriend/girlfriend and then the bf/gf ends up going to somewhere different. For example one friend who lived in Los Angeles got into UCLA and MIT, and went to UCLA for her bf, and then he (was a year younger) went to MIT the next year.</p>
<p>Trust me things will work out if they are meant to be.</p>
<p>If it’s meant to last, then you guys can find a way. My two friends from high school (in South Bend) decided to part ways and the distance actually strenghtened their relationship! He goes to ND and she goes to Catholic University of America in DC. The distances are comparable, and like you both, they have a very strong Catholic background.<br>
I hope it will work out for you, regardless of what you pick :)</p>
<p>Johns Hopkins. You shouldn’t make such a huge decision based on another person- if it doesn’t work out, you’ll regret it for a long time, especially if you’re giving up an amazing school like JHU.</p>
<p>JHU, if you really feel that it is better for your academic goals. I’d be wary to transfer because of a horrible first term (happens to a ton of freshmen) and saying your second term was completely based on your boyfriend. If your newfound happiness only came from him and you still hated the rest of the school and didnt like the academics, definitely transfer. But if you are going to transfer because of your first term and wouldnt have otherwise, i’d keep thinking about it. JHU and ND are completely (!!) different school environments, so make sure you are thinking about that too.</p>
<p>the reason i say that is because a lot of people have trouble adjusting to college as a whole, and often blame it on the school itself. In no way do I think you should stay at ND if its only for your boyfriend, but i think its a bigger decision than just boyfriend vs. dream school (imo at least!)</p>
<p>Make a list of reasons of why you do not like ND.
Make sure it’s not because of adjustmen issues.
Go to John Hopkins. Not worth being miserable at a university just for a guy. Please, the guy could work if you really work hard and if it doesn’t maybe later on in life you can find each other again. And of course there are other great guys out there too.</p>
<p>It was the best thing that my fiance decided to go to school in MIT, while I was at U. Texas. It made us realize we WEREN’T meant to be together! I shudder to think what would have happened if we’d been foolish enough to marry.</p>
<p>One of my friends moved from LA to DC for his boyfriend. The next year his boyfriend moved to LA and left my friend in DC lol Three years later my friend is stuck in DC and can’t find a job in LA, he’s starting to consider jobs in NorCal. The point is, you’re not married, put yourself first!</p>
<p>Even though I will also be applying to JHU next year and am hoping for extra empty spaces so there will be a place for me, I have to say go with JHU. You’ve got good reasons for transferring, and it would be worse to lose a dream than to lose a boyfriend.</p>
<p>Hopkins. Every time. Chase your dreams. You’re at the most 19. There’s plenty of time to find another boyfriend, and if you guys really are meant to be, it will work anyways.</p>