<p>My best friend and I applied to the same college. He applied because it was his dream school and I applied because I thought it was the best choice for me even though I don't particularly love the school (but it's the best fit for me, and it'll open so many doors for my future).</p>
<p>My stats are higher than his, but, in my opinion, colleges don't ONLY look at your grades/rank/GPA/SAT, though they do play a huge part in the process. Essays and Recs are also incredibly important, but he can't get past the numbers.</p>
<p>Soooo, my friend viewed me applying to his dream school as an act of betrayal and BAM!- we're no longer friends.</p>
<p>When I say no longer friends, I mean, he's telling me false information as to when assignments for class are due (I've been sick lately, so I trusted him to tell me what tests were on what dates and whatnot) and he's making me feel like dirt pretty much (i.e. rubbing past heartbreaks/bad high school drama in my face, throwing my secrets back at me, etc.) and it's ALL because of this one stupid college.</p>
<p>I have absolutely no idea what to do. Literally, I'm at a loss. We've been friends for so long, and now he's trying to sabotage me (Grade-wise and emotional-wise), and I'm feeling pretty down now. </p>
<p>Any advice? Anyone been in a situation with competitive, sullen friends?</p>
<p>Find new friends. He’s probably not worth being friends with if he’s acting this way. Or, if you really want to be his friend, you can try letting him know that you seriously want to talk to him about it and that this whole college thing really shouldn’t effect your friendship.</p>
<p>What a *****, honestly… but first you have to communicate with him. Let him know your point of view and if he doesn’t want to hear it, sincerely hope that you get in and he doesn’t :)</p>
<p>We’ve talked… but he keeps saying that I knew this was his first choice college and the fact that I’m applying to it with higher stats (which apparently totally shatters his chances) is low and an act of backstabbing… !!!</p>
<p>1.It’s not your fault that you have higher stats.
2.He doesn’t get to determine which schools you apply to.
3.Colleges will take more than one person from each high school. (My kids’ small <100 per class school sends 3-4 to Yale most years.)
4.Why does “his first choice” trump “the school that’s the best fit for me?”
5.Best friends are supposed to root for one another, even if it makes their own path harder sometimes.</p>
<p>There are a few more things you can tell yourself, and maybe him if you have the chance. I’m sorry. College admissions brings out the worst in some people.</p>
<p>Tell him the school won’t compare you two just because you’re at the same school.</p>
<p>Which I’m not sure is always true but I doubt he knows that. But I know one college at least (don’t remember which) said that they don’t even pay attention to when kids are at the same school… It’s worth a shot?</p>
<p>This seems like VERY juvenile behavior though.</p>
<p>I meant to say that your school gives them the school profile (highest gpa, ap classes offered, etc). but don’t compare you to other students at your school side by side.</p>
<p>There are some colleges who assign people to regions (such as "texas) or something like that.</p>
<p>It is not only a selfish behavior, but also a silly logic. Considering there are thousands of applicants in the pool, your applying or not does not change much of his chace because the competition isn’t between you two. Unless you can help him to stop everyone’s applying, you cannot help him by dropping out yourself. </p>
<p>How selfish he is when he has no confidance, yet hopes his friend to sacrifice for his hopeless chace!</p>
<p>I guarantee he will apologize to you soon or later.</p>
<p>It is not only a selfish behavior, but also a silly logic. Considering there are thousands of applicants in the pool, your applying or not does not change much of his chace because the competition isn’t between you two. Unless you can help him to stop everyone’s applying, you cannot help him by dropping out yourself. </p>
<p>How selfish he is when he has no confidance, yet hopes his friend to sacrifice for his hopeless chace!</p>
<p>Don’t be fooled and bothered by all those dirty tricks (I had the same experience). Don’t waste even a second to think about it. I guarantee he will apologize to you soon or later.</p>