<p>In high school i had alot of friends, that i used to chill with, go out on the weekends with, etc. It was so much fun. Now, i just cant do it. My roommate is one that stays in his room all day doesn't really talk that much, and we have nothing in common. But im trying to "connect" with him so to speak. During the first days of school, i met people during parties, and made "friends with them", but we really dont hang out during the week at all, we just see each other at parties and hang out then. My college is a small one, with about 2000+ students, who all live up here, (upstate NY) and are all cliquey(If thats even a word) During class, i meet some people, but thats it, we only chill "in class" I juts cant seem to make a solid group of friends to hang out with at all. So ive just been doing work, going to the gym, and doing hw out in social places, like the library or such, so i can meet some people. My cousin also goes here, so hes a fall back option, but i dont want to burden him. What can i do? Feeling kinda lonely, not depressed, but it makes me miss my friends and family back home. All of my other friends in college can do it, but why cant I?</p>
<p>Have you tried inviting people to do things (hang out at your place, get dinner, see a movie, go out on weekends, whatever)? Friendships don’t just happen. You have to actually make an effort to spend time together.</p>
<p>At a small college most students eat in one of only a few places. Go to one of those and try to strike up a conversation and see if you can sit with them. You might also want to join some intramurals as they not only provide health benefits but also allow you to hang out with people of all years and then get food after you’ve worked out.</p>
<p>yeah when clubs start i hope things will change</p>
<p>I have the same problem, except I’m a Senior in college. I think it’s a plus that you’re going to such a small university, because you’ll likely see the same people in your classes or events versus going a large university where I got to has 45,000 students.</p>
<p>Just start a conversation with people with small talk. Do not hesitate about this and you have to ask for their # or something so that you can contact them and hangout.</p>
<p>If you just say hi, talk for 10 min, bond very well and then leave without any contact info, it won’t work. Like baktrax said, make the effort.</p>