<p>Yeah typical 'whiny freshman' thread. I'm just so sad now. I went on a foreign exchange a year ago and that wasn't bad but this time it's worse. I miss my friends (even though one is coming here on Thursday for school, I just moved in early), my family, my house... My roommate is nice and no one in my hall is a jerk but I am so homesick I have trouble talking with people and I've only been here a day. I can say 'hi, what's your major?' and other stuff but it never gets any deeper. We have some sort of giant club festival on Sunday, which should be okay but I don't even know how I'll make it to then. I'm wandering around alone on an almost empty campus since 99% of the school moves in on Thursday and all I want to do is cry and go home. :( I just wish I could sort myself out and go and meet people.</p>
<p>Go outside with the friends/roommates you have met so far, browse the city, have some fun. Get off CC and call your family and friends.</p>
<p>Maybe go on your school's facebook group and suggest a meetup. Thats how I made my first friends at the college I'm going to.</p>
<p>well it seems to me that you are just lonely because most of the people have not arrived on campus yet. I would say just leave your door open so that other lonely people can come in a talk. try to me more social! everyone is in the same place as you so there is no need to be so nervous. i am sure that tomorrow will be a better day :-)</p>
<p>Now is the time to bury yourself in fun stuff and alone time before the academic load and annoying cramped living spaces set in. Read a book you've been wanting to explore, go on adventures in the town/city, and go get yourself a manicure (I don't like them, but it could be fun). Go check out the gym. Go see how cool the library is. Maybe check out cool college town shops and boutiques to find some stuff for your dorm. Don't worry, it will get better.</p>
<p>If all else fails call your mom. She will be glad to know you miss her. :) Hugs to you.</p>
<p>I was a freshman last year, and I went through this as well. The best suggestion I can make is to meet people. I felt so down and homesick my first month at school that I was reluctant to meet people and be outgoing. However, this was the worst thing I could've done, and I only started feeling comfortable at college once I started opening up and meeting people. Trust me, you'll get to the point where your college feels like home, give it a month and you'll be seeing people you know everywhere you go! </p>
<p>Also, remember that you're not away from home forever. Plan a trip back home in a couple weeks (if you're close enough to do that), and if you're far away, still remember that you'll get to spend lots of time at home during the holidays. </p>
<p>I'd suggest doing something to make yourself cheer up a bit. If you feel up to it, try to meet people in your hall. If not, watch a movie or call your friends and family. Just remember that this won't last. This will be the hardest part, and even after a few days you'll start feeling more comfortable at school.</p>
<p>I felt the same way moving in for the first time. I wasn't really that homesick but I missed my friends back home. Luckily, my best friend was my roommate so I got over it and made a bunch of new friends. It takes time to get used to the situation. Just try to go out there and meet new people because everybody who is there is probably just as nervous and homesick as you because it's their first time living on their own. Meet people in your house and then venture out to the campus. You'll get over it eventually but it takes time.</p>
<p>The best thing to know is that this will be the hardest time of the year. Remember that with time, it will definitely get better. Once you survive the first couple of weeks you should be adapted to the new environment and all of the anxiety over the transition will be gone. Once more people get there (including your friend) and classes start, you will be much busier and I'm sure you will find that you will enjoy it much more. I know it's hard, but give it time.</p>
<p>try asking people on your hall and stuff to go out for a bite to eat or do something in the city.
but don't stress, i'm sure once clubs and organizations go up, you'll find people who are interested in the same things you are and things will click.</p>
<p>"I was a freshman last year, and I went through this as well. The best suggestion I can make is to meet people. I felt so down and homesick my first month at school that I was reluctant to meet people and be outgoing. However, this was the worst thing I could've done, and I only started feeling comfortable at college once I started opening up and meeting people. Trust me, you'll get to the point where your college feels like home, give it a month and you'll be seeing people you know everywhere you go! "</p>
<p>This sums up my feelings as well, to make matters worse I transferred and I had to go through it all over again. But give it time, the best way I made friends was from interacting with kids in my classes. Especially if you are taking science classes, ask kids that seem smart and enthusiastic about learning if you want to study with them, that is how I made a lot of my friends on my campus.</p>
<p>You should talk to the people who you have met - even if its not deep at first - and ask them to go out and do something. Play frisbee. See a movie. Something. Anything. I'm sure people are in the same boat and will appreciated it.</p>
<p>Hey, it'll work out. Every freshman suffers from homesickness. If you're uni has a student activities day, make sure to sign up for something. You'll find yourself among people who are in the same boat for you, making the transition smoother.</p>
<p>It's always sorta like that on the first day. I didn't feel too good about my first day either but now it's pretty good :) hang in there!</p>
<p>Get out and just do anything with the people in your hall. People become friends usually after an experience they share together that might have been funny or otherwise memorable. The only way to have such an experience is to create the opportunity for one. Try to stay off of the computer.</p>
<p>:( I'm worried I'm going to be like this soon, too. But I moved to a new school for 10th grade and felt like I had no friends, but I made so many new and wonderful ones!</p>
<p>You have to just give it some time. You'll feel this way, like you have no friends no matter how much you smile or try to socialize with everyone. This will last for about 3 weeks or so, but things will brighten up!</p>
<p>I moved in the 16th for soccer, and today the rest of the class is moving in.
I thought I would be really homesick, but I am really enjoying myself(even though I haven't gone off campus yet).
I will say most people act different for the first few days, that whole semi awkward meet and greet(hi, my names x, I am majoring in blank, and I am from x city) and a lot of people are just super anxious to meet people so they don't feel lonely.
I am more independent, I enjoy others company, but not all the time, so enjoy the peace. Most are in a similiar situation and their true personalities won't show for awhile. I've bonded more with upperclassman than the freshman, because the freshman tend to be a little fake until they're comfortable(if that makes any sense). The upperclassman are more confident, and don't want to meet people just to have a walking buddy. Be friendly, smile, make some smalltalk and you never know who'll you'll meet. Wear a shirt with you city/hometown on it or local university(A guy came up to me because he knew where Duquesne was, and lived in the same city), or if you see someone with a sports shirt on, ask them about sports. Leave your door open(social people will usually say hi).
My teammates tell me during welcome days or classes you'll meet losts of people who are beyond that fake(really not trying to be mean, they just all are nervous and come off a little strong) anxiety. I highly suggest joining a team because you meet some really awesome people and knowledgable upperclassman who help you out.
I also am very shy, and feel uncomfortable in large groups, but am trying to make the best of it(our freshman on soccer do EVERYTHING together), as I am sure in a week or two people will be a little more "real" and you'll meet people in classes(make conversation- do you get this, etc;). Small talk will eventually prosper into something more with the right people, but look into joining a team or club.</p>
<p>Same, catsushi! I moved to the US for 10th grade not knowing one single person. I remember those days, eating outside by myself in the most random spots on campus. This went on for a week or two until I met a friend in my History classwho is now my best friend. </p>
<p>I'll be moving to Boston in a week for college. For all those anxious about moving in (including myself), I think the best way to prevent depression and homesickness is to avoid idleness. Go out! Explore the area, say hi to your floormates and attend any school-sponsored event. This will keep you busy and force you to be around with other freshmen. Wish yourself some luck and hope to bump into some great people. </p>
<p>Best of luck everyone!</p>
<p>^^Good advice! And "yay" for moving to Boston. :)</p>
<p>I dunno if this helps anyone else, but the way I fight homesickness is to just pretend I'm on vacation, you're out of home just to have fun and learn for the time being. And in reality, you should be home soon enough (Fall break or Thanksgiving at the most), right?</p>