<p>At a coffee shop or something, do I just sit down and say, "Hi do you mind if I sit here?" and then just start the conversation by introducing myself?</p>
<p>PS. I'm talking about girls.</p>
<p>yes.
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<p>I thought only the homeless people and illegal solicitors did this at cafes. People are usually busy there.</p>
<p>At a bar, sure. A coffee shop isn't the right setting for that, though, IMO.</p>
<p>sure why not.</p>
<p>half the time whe someone's in a coffee shop, if they're not completely busy (ex. rapidly taking notes, 2 cups of coffee already finished), they would be fine with some conversation with a stranger.</p>
<p>They are mostly likely waiting for someone, or possibly waiting for their order in which case you will have about 2-3 minutes. And then you will in all likeliness, never see the person again. So, I think there are better places to meet people than in a coffee shop.</p>
<p>It's not like most people who ask questions like these are seriously going to do something about it anyway because they just want to feel like they're accomplishing something. To answer the question, no, since you don't want to seem like someone who just goes around hitting on random people. Only talk to her if you actually have a purpose or you're already doing something together like an activity or a project.</p>
<p>Also, what if that person is waiting for his/her date, you know?</p>
<p>then they have some company while waiting...</p>
<p>Ok, coffee shop is a wrong setting. The cafeteria near my residence would be a better place.</p>
<p>Coffee shop is fine.</p>
<p>Just do it. What's the worst that can happen? They say no. Big deal.</p>
<p>The answer is always no when you don't ask.</p>
<p>"then they have some company while waiting..."</p>
<p>That creates for some awkward tension though. After all, this person is preparing him or herself for the date and probably would not want to be hit on right before an important date.</p>
<p>_At a coffee shop or something, do I just sit down and say, "Hi do you mind if I sit here?" and then just start the conversation by introducing myself?</p>
<p>PS. I'm talking about girls._</p>
<p>Is the tale of a guy who said "It sure is a beautiful day, isn't it?" to a woman and got accused of sexual harassment because of that statment an urban legend or truth? I don't know, either way, it <em>is</em> something to think about, especially before you try such a stunt like that.</p>
<p>I think Edontp wraps it up pretty well:
"To answer the question, no, since you don't want to seem like someone who just goes around hitting on random people. Only talk to her if you actually have a purpose or you're already doing something together like an activity or a project."</p>
<p>haha
i have to say, if someone randomly started talking to me like that (even if i was waiting for a date) i'd be a little flattered. so if u have some previous connection with the chick or at least a subject to talk about, then go ahead. at worst, you'll make someone smile that day.</p>
<p>If the girl looks like she's hanging out there, I don't see why you couldn't say hello and start a conversation. I think if I were going to talk to a stranger in a coffee house (beyond small talk, that is), though, he would have to be either very interesting, or very attractive.</p>
<p>It's not really an issue of having the courage to talk to her or what's the worst that can happen. It's more that it's just impractical and pointless. You wouldn't introduce yourself to every stranger you bumped into on the street, so why would it be any different for a girl who you'll never see again. And if her date does show up, then you'll be in a lot of trouble, since it's obvious you're only talking to her because you're attracted to her and not just being friendly.</p>
<p>Who's to say you won't ever see that person again? Just get that person's number, call em and set something up later. This requires a lot of game, but I've seen it happen. A guy I knew managed to get a girl's number in five minutes just talking to her for the first time. And this was just at a fair. So I would imagine that a coffee shop you'd have a bit more time than that.</p>
<p>Sit down and start talking. Don't come with excuses, just have fun!</p>
<p>maybe at a school owned facility...but otherwise I'd imagine that might garner you an odd look or two</p>
<p>unless the place is full or you have at least made eye contact with the person i guess</p>
<p>I'd say especially if the place is full, ask if she'd mind if you sit, and if she says yes, then that gives you a reason to thank her and introduce yourself. </p>
<p>If it's not full, and you don't have the excuse that her table is near the counter and you're just waiting for your drink, I think you should only ask her if you can sit if she looks bored.</p>