No one is entitled to a $250k education, and NO ONE is entitled to graduate school. People who have 5 kids often take the free route - free public school rather than private, free day at the zoo rather than paying for 7 admission, camping vacations rather than a suite at the Hilton. If schools want to offer scholarships, that’s up to the school. As I said, we were offered a scholarship but I turned it down. Unlike this family, I didn’t want to live at a ‘scholarship eligible’ wage if I could earn more. I didn’t want my kids to be unable to participate in all the activities.
I was talking to my daughter about finances and told her we were pretty poor for a time when I was out of work and they were in 3rd-6th grades. Her response was ‘but we didn’t know it.’ They still did girl scouts and rec league sports and a lot of other inexpensive or free things. We didn’t feel entitled to participate but were grateful when the clubs or organizations made it possible. If they would have gone to the private school, they would have known we were poor.