I’m not sure whether I should transfer or not. The college I am currently at is pretty decent, in a nice area, with many opportunities, and an ok financial aid package, however, I’m not entirely happy. My first semester was pretty bad, I had trouble finding friends, got way to stressed with classes (only to realize I didn’t need to because I was just over-thinking and got A’s), I constantly felt overwhelmed by just being so far from home and constantly surrounded by peers. However, by the last few months of that semester I started making friends. Now we’re really close, but I’m still not sure how I feel about staying. I told myself second semester I would try my hardest in every possible way, healthwise, grade-wise, job-wise, opportunity-wise, socially, etc. Its been almost two weeks, and while I’m not as miserable as last semester, I’m still not as happy as I know I could be. Should I give it time or should I just move back to a college closer to home?
Staying here Pro’s:
Lots of opportunity
More independency
ALL MY CREDITS WILL STILL COUNT
Probably a better program
More able to build a resume here in terms of jobs
Staying here con’s:
Social life isn’t where I want it to be (but I’ve always been very bad at social)
Homesick
Not 100% sure of my major
More expensive (even with a scholarship)
I still have little idea about how all this college stuff works here but I’m trying
Going home Pros:
Less expensive
My highschool friends are still in the same areas
Because its less expensive there is more flexibility with deciding my major
Closer to family and everything I’ve grown up with
Going home con’s:
Only 1/3 of my credits transfer
I’ll have to start over socially (because even if my highschool friends are there I still need to make connections in college)
Start over with understanding system and all the college stuff (like how to get the internships and study abroad programs)
Closer to family (which I might rely on too much rather than growing on my own)
Can’t get a job back home (I live abroad and where I come from undergrads usually don’t get hired, even for retail jobs and such)
Its still early to decide (May 10 is the deadline for the app for the school I want to transfer to), but I thought I get this up early so that I could get some responses in time. My current GPA in my first semester is a 3.83, and even if I do badly, the most I can see it dropping in my current semester is a 3.6. I scored 1390 on my SAT (I think, but its close to that). I’ve done many extracurriculars (basketball, volleyball, debate, community service) and my highschool GPA was more than 4.0
I just feel like I could be doing so much more than what I’m doing right now. I’m not sure if its because its too early to say that I’m not doing enough, and if its really just because these things take time, or if I’ve really done all I can do and still not feel satisfied with where I am.
Its also weighing me down because its so expensive and I don’t want my parents to be paying so much for something I’m not even sure of yet. While there are opportunities here, its no use if I can’t afford them or dont know how to use them. Am I just being lazy by going home and not figuring this out? Or smart for saving the money?
Pls help