Lessons Learned

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<p>Hey Everyone,</p>

<p>I haven’t been an active poster for the past couple of months since I started college in Minnesota. I just feel the need to share this since I think it could be beneficial to those of you going to college next year and those in college. Ok, so I learned many many incredibly important lessons during my first semester at some pretty big costs. But if I want anyone to learn anything from my experience it is this:</p>

<li><p>If you get romantically involved with someone, DO NOT make them a priority when you’re just an option. I got involved with someone, fell in love, and this person left me for someone else…yet they’re still playing with my head. Think about this: if someone is perfect and amazing and great would they really be screwing around with your emotions, their emotions, and someone else’s emotions? Hell no.</p></li>
<li><p>In the same vein, do not let those sorts of things get in the way of school. I got way too emotionally invested and as a result my grades suffered. I now have to repeat a class to get a better grade.</p></li>
<li><p>In the same vein still, do not let someone get in the way of important stuff, like your HEALTH, your FRIENDS, and your FAMILY. Because of this person, I smoked 10x the weed I smoked (before it was only once a month…with this person it was 5-6 times a week for a month. Not cause they smoked weed, but because I was so miserable and in so much pain, that I needed to numb myself) and drank alcohol until I threw up many times.</p></li>
<li><p>You will not be best friends with everyone. its a sad truth, but you can at the very least treat people with care and respect.</p></li>
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<p>So my advice is…</p>

<li>Focus on developing friendships</li>
<li>Focus on SCHOOL SCHOOL SCHOOL</li>
<li>Exercise, play sports, swim, play an instrument, read for pleasure…do something that YOU like to do everyday</li>
<li>Do not expect to be BFFs with your roommate. I went in with that mentality, we got a long great for the first half of the semester, got into a huge fight and now we barely talk…not good as we will be living together for 5 more months.</li>
<li>Talk to your parents </li>
<li>Remember that school is your job.</li>
<li>STAY POSITIVE!</li>
<li>Don’t drink too much or smoke too much.</li>
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<p>Take care of YOUR well-being.</p>

<p>So now, I have to repeat a class, I can apply for a summer program because I do not meet GPA requirements.</p>

<p>Thankfully, if I re-take said class I can bump my GPA to a high of 3.5 which is great. I have a rebound plan, but remember college is college. A person you’ve only just met cannot have that much impact on your life. </p>

<p>Good luck to everyone!</p>

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<p>lol @ rationalizing your bad grades and drug use because of some guy.</p>

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<p>^I actually LOL'd.</p>

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<p>^ya...still...the shoe does pinch...</p>

<p>@cabarcamo
better late than never...m glad that u r ok now...or atleast u l be</p>

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<p>that's pretty insensitive. yeah, romantic issues did get in the way, but so did death in the family and illness. excuse me for not wanting to share that.</p>

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<p>Sounds like you've had a rough year settling into your first year of college. But it's great that you've realized what you need to do in order to get back on your game. Good luck with your next semester. :]</p>

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<p>hope everything works out! good luck</p>

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<p>Best of luck.</p>

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<p>Sounds like my roommate. People are people, that doesn't change from hs to college, some people are just naive in thinking college is much diffrent from hs, becuase its not by any stretch of the imagination. I think the key to college is be yourself and not to adjust your beliefs/morals for other people and to be slow in chosing friends, and slower to change and realizing that, just like hs, friends and relationships that are meaningful in many cases take time.</p>

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<p>Dude SO been there done that. I definitely feel you and know how that is. That was like, my entire sophomore year. It was really f---ing dumb. You seem to have figured it out before I did though (in one semester instead of two) so good on you for that at least. #1 I especially sympathize with, that seriously describes my relationship with an ex.</p>

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<p>As nice as the romance advice sounds, it has been my experience (and apparently yours as well) that when you find yourself falling very hard for someone, that all stops making sense. I also did badly my first year of college because of love, even though I am very personally aware and intelligent, and I don't believe anyone or any amount of advice could have (or even should have) changed that.</p>

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<p>In terms of romantic involvement freshman year, I strongly advise against staying with your high school sweetheart, especially if the relationship becomes long distance. First semester freshman year is a challenge for everyone with all of the adjustments, and maintaining a long distance relationship takes a lot of work and emotional investment - it is often a feat that is very difficult for older adults, it is close to impossible for 18 year olds. However, if the two involved really want to put in the effort,then at least take a break from the relationship until Christmas break. Independence is key in adjusting to college. </p>

<p>Why be involved in a relationship when you're young and surrounded by hundreds or even thousands of new and interesting people! Breaking up with my boyfriend in the middle of first semester pretty much depressed me for the entire first semester, and I missed out on a lot of opportunities to meet new people and try new things. Don't make the same mistake I did!</p>

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<p>Rule #8 is bs.</p>

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<p>^ true</p>

<p>OP, you are obviously not the brightest crayon in the box... hahaha</p>

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<p>Damn, y'all are cold blooded. LOL.</p>