<p>let's call stanford and ask if they are sending out decisions today or tomrorow</p>
<p>Why dont you call?</p>
<p>already did. not today</p>
<p>Then I guess it'll be monday. :(</p>
<p>FYI, based on the email son just received from Stanford admissions , don't expect any news until Thur, at the earliest.</p>
<p>what did the email say?</p>
<p>shes just talking about the one we got yesterday.</p>
<p>also, shes wrong. it says "on or around" december 15th, not "on or after." In previous years it has always been before the 15th, so there is no reason to assume that around means after.</p>
<p>i love that "FYI," sounding all adultish and informed. FYI mom, this is a site for students, go get some friends. if my parents did anything remotely that obsessive concerning my life i would disown them.</p>
<p>"if my parents did anything remotely that obsessive concerning my life i would disown them".</p>
<p>You find 42 posts to be obsessive?
Why so defensive?</p>
<p>lol. I know someone whose parents stalked him on AIM and made him pay when they found out he had a girlfriend (he was Asian, btw).</p>
<p>Matt: i thought it might be that, but i wanted to be sure before i'd make judgements, since assumptions are able to make an ass out of you, especially if she's talking about some other email.</p>
<p>i wouldn't let my adorable little indian parents read my college essays for a long time, and i'm pretty sure they were on a secret agent mission to find them. </p>
<p>muahaha, all they had to do was look in the manila folder marked "FINAL COLLEGE ESSAYS"</p>
<p>so, all in all, i'd say my pure evil genius of putting them in a really obvious place worked. </p>
<p>the end.</p>
<p>i dont care about the number of posts...</p>
<p>I take issue with the fact that an adult... someone who has responsibilities and a life of their own... is participating in a forum designed for students to feel camaraderie and relieve some stress.</p>
<p>As we approach college, we need to start becoming fully self-reliant. If a kid can't figure out how to get into a college his/herself, they dont deserve to go. True, parents should provide support. But how exactly does chatting with high schoolers across the country improve their child's life? Thus this is not a case of support, it is obsession.</p>
<p>I feel like our space is being intruded upon. I dont want adults to vicariously participate in our experience.</p>
<p>Just to clarify:</p>
<p>There is nothing wrong with obsession about one's own life... hell, look at all the students on CC, but when you are obsessed with someone elses you are a control freak.</p>
<p>You sure seem to be reading a LOT into a short post.
Is that your real name as your user name? What if Stanford admin types read this board and see your hostility towards parents?</p>
<p>Also, did you know that Menlo Park is right around the corner from Stanford? Menlomom might know more than you think ;)</p>
<p>two points to make:
1. obsessing with your child's life is something every parent does. to what extent they act upon it is different, but the unconditional love and caring exist, and yes, obsessiveness does exist. i do, however, agree that parents who act on every impulse to infringe on their child's life aren't providing him or her with the best upbringing.
2. it is a case of support. i'm sure the kid can figure out how to get into college by him/herself, and this forum wouldn't exactly make an earth-shattering change. but then again, there are valid points brought up here - i don't visit this forum just to chat with high schoolers all over the country either. i do it to see some things that spring into people's minds about stanford's admission process, and how those issues are resolved, lest it apply to me. parents have been known to read CC, menloparkmom being far from the first one. the purpose of this forum isn't only for camaraderie and stress relief - although that is a pleasant side effect. the purpose is to provide information about colleges that may not be otherwise known, and answer questions some may have. most kids are motivated enough to be the ones posting and reading threads, and their parents feel that the burden lies on the kids to gather any and all information for college. that being said, if some parent decides that he or she'd rather read this too, let them. they deserve to know what we know, and pass it down to their kid. maybe the kid's not motivated enough to check the forum him/herself, maybe there are other issues that come into play. whatever the case, parental involvement isn't and shouldn't be some taboo thing - it's just unusual, that's all.</p>
<p>when somebody--parent, student, admissions officer, college grad--wants to help you, you take it. you're not necessarily the most informed person in the world; I'm glad for knowledgeable people posting here.</p>
<p>individualism is also about being resourceful.</p>
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I take issue with the fact that an adult... someone who has responsibilities and a life of their own... is participating in a forum designed for students to feel camaraderie and relieve some stress.
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if its designed for students, why is there a parents forum? she was just trying to be helpful by answering the question someone asked...</p>
<p>exactly, I_am.
although, I would still love to see the letter that her son got, or at least the relevant part, where Stanford pinned down their admission decision slightly more than just mid-December.</p>
<p>maybe u're taking this a little too seriously
though i agree that there are some parents who make it their lifes mission to get their kid into skools like stanford...kinda creepy sometimes...but hey a lot of the time it works
but then once their kid gets out of these schools with their fancy college degrees, they have no idea what to do...life is fair that way</p>
<p>you guys have good points.</p>
<p>i admit that i overreacted. the thing that motivated me to post was not simply the fact that it was an adult. assuming that the specified email was the one we received yesterday, which i acknowledge is not a sure assumption, the tone of the post sounded very self-important. reproduced here:</p>
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FYI, based on the email son just received from Stanford admissions , don't expect any news until Thur, at the earliest.
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<p>I interpreted that as her thinking she knew more than us, not just about the email, but about how to interpret the email... which was just funny because we are more informed than her, but we dont go around "FYI"ing people. At that point I decided to bring her back to reality, admittedly harshly.</p>
<p>In response to biker... I think a Stanford admin person would agree with my sentiments.</p>