<p>pizzagirl: you are right in that no, the imagined community shouldn’t matter. But much like the imagined communities that make up nation states, they matter because humans are irrational by nature. </p>
<p>As for interacting with other ivies more so than others, most of my friends in long distance relationships are dating other nearby Ivy students. Two friends in my singing group are dating Princeton girls. I’ll refer to them as Benedict and Arnold 
I have more friends at Harvard than I do friends at nearby Drexel and Temple universities combined. Same goes for Yale, Columbia, and Princeton. (can’t say the same for Brown Dartmouth Cornell…oops!)</p>