Some students attend different colleges and stay together. My nephew went to Williams, and his HS GF went to Mount Holyoke. Both graduated in 4 years, and never wavered in their commitment to each other as far as I know. He went on to med school (they lived together then), and they are now happily married and have a couple of wee ones. I attended their small wedding, and my nephew cried when he read his vows because he was so happy to be marrying the love of his life. You do NOT need to live with your BF freshman year of college for a lasting relationship.
This is such a bad idea all around. Go to the school YOU would choose if you’d broken up last week. The one that speaks to YOU, not to him.
Your relationship may last, it may not. Such is life. Few high school relationships survive freshman year (search “turkey drop” on CC to get an idea).
Your education will be with you for life. Statistics tell us he probably won’t be.
An aside: I’ve been married for 20 years. I am not sure I could stand to live with my husband (who I dearly love) in a shoebox of a dorm room.
I have no problem with living with your boyfriend in college. I did it from sophomore year on and then married him.
HOWEVER, I think it is important to live on campus at least your freshman year if possible. You will go through a lot that first year making friends, exploring new things, etc. You may grow together, you may grow apart, but either way I think you need a space to grow.
ETA: I missed post #12. HUGE red flag. DO NOT make your college decision based on a high school boyfriend. Just… don’t.
If you don’t break up, and if you really care about each other, hopefully you won’t, I think it’s important for you to each have your own space and your own experiences for a bit. It’ll allow you both to grow and learn a lot about yourselves and one another, and bring that new knowledge and new experiences into the relationship! This doesn’t mean you can’t live together in the future, but I think learning about yourselves is very important. It’s something I wish I would’ve done at 18. Now I’m 22 and just figuring out how important individual experiences and alone time is.
Regardless of what happens, best of luck & God bless!
I just saw post no. 12 and a HUGE piece of advice: do not waste time, money, and one of the most important periods of your life at a school you don’t care for! It can be awfully depressing. Go where is best for you now & in your future!