<p>Am I crazy to think this is very strange and concerning?
I was assigned a roommate 2 days ago to the 2 bedroom student apartment I was living in alone. I went to meet the new girl at the apartment today and her boyfriend was helping her move. There were lots of boxes and she said "don't worry, this stuff isn't all mine. Actually most of it is his. It will be gone when he gets his own place." To which I asked "to clarify, his stuff is staying here, not him, right?" And she said "well, actually, he will be living here until he gets a new place. But don't worry, I'll be back in my hometown while he lives here so it won't be crowded!" When I express my clear discomfort, the boyfriend very forcefully responded "I have nowhere else to live so this is what is going to happen."
To be frank, he scares me. The bedroom locks there are very flimsy and he's quite a large guy. It wouldn't even bother me as much if it was a friends boyfriend, but I don't know the girl or the guy. She thinks it's perfectly acceptable for him to live there with me alone so I thought I'd get a second opinion. Am I overreacting? Or is this strange? Tonight was supposed to be my first night alone with him and I've gone home to my moms to avoid it. Is it a silly reason for me to choose to sublease my room and get a one bedroom? I just can't help but think that if this is what's happening right off the bat I may not want to live with this girl. </p>
<p>Yep, get out. If the school assigned this, tell the RA immediately. Any guests are supposed to be cleared and acceptable to roommates before staying over.</p>
<p>From what I’ve read, not crazy. And I know crazy.</p>
<p>Having trouble editing. Thinking this is strange/concerning does not seem crazy. Not sure about the sublease part. . </p>
<p>Yeah, if you don’t feel comfortable, I’d get out. That doesn’t sound like a very safe situation. I agree with the part about telling the RA–you’re the only person supposed to stay in the room you were assigned to because of sketchy situations like these. I’d talk to the RA as soon as possible and just stay at your mom’s place for now. </p>
<p>Best of luck! And stay safe! </p>
<p>If this is a school owned apartment talk to the RA. If he doesn’t help go up the chain to the housing director. DO not wait. You need to make this clear immediately that you will not be taken advantage of. I would also talk to housing and see if you can be reassigned to a new apartment. If it is not school owned, then read what your lease says. Most leases specify that only the signed tenants can live there full time.</p>
<p>Either way, I would try to move. Your roommate sounds like trouble. The BF doesn’t sound much better. He could become a long term roommate.</p>
<p>Like others say, go right to the RA and discuss. You are paying for this and are not paying to live with a guy. It is not your issue whatsoever that this guy doesn’t have a place to live. Most likely he has some guy friends and he can live with them.</p>
<p>If you live on campus, go to RA! </p>
<p>Also, read the book “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin DeBecker.<br>
Tell us what happened.</p>
<p>Seconding #8. Trust your gut and go to the RA.
Sounds like they are trying to railroad you into agreeing.</p>