Loneliness

This is extremely common. It’s so hard to forge real connections with someone in a week. But this is a great time because your window is open to initiate all kinds of conversations with people in your classes. What else are you taking? Do you know anything about this professor? Where are you from? Do you know what you’re majoring in yet? Have any clubs looked interesting to you? Honestly, if you’ve made friends already, you’re ahead of the game compared to a lot of people. The goal now is to just solidify those connections, which really only happens with time. It’s so funny because when I first got to college, I somehow ended up spending a lot of time with this group of three other girls. I felt like they were all really close and similar, and I was clearly on the outskirts, the odd one out in the group. I graduated two years ago but recently mentioned my feelings to the girl who struck me as the ringleader of the foursome, and she said she felt the exact same way at the time! I don’t want to imply everyone is just faking it, but definitely don’t believe that everyone else is up until 3am having heart-to-hearts with their new deepest best friends forever. It’s the beginning of the process for everyone.