<p>Hey everyone,
I go to a pretty small engineering school, I like the school for its program and professor, but let's say that the off-class life is not really great. There aren't really any event so the only way to have fun is to make your own fun. Only problem is that i am a natural introvert and super shy person. Anyway I'm a freshman and at move in week I hanged out with some people but I am just that one person that sits there and listens but doesn't really say anything so I guess people just figured out they shouldnt even care about me. So yeah after more than a semester I still don't really have friends. I sometimes have lunch or diner with some people but they never bother to ask me if I wanted to hang out with them after so I just go back to my room ( I have no room mate btw) and just study or stay on my computer. I feel really depressed and lonely at sometimes. I tried to go to some student orgs but the school is so small that there aren't a lot that meet my interests and usually no one shows up to the events so it's not fun. I just wished for a fresh start but I know I would screw it up like I did at the beginning of the year. Plus my floor only has people older than me or foreign so I don't really connect to them and don't really know anyone on my floor.
Anyone out here to give me tips or it's just to late for me and I can just hope I'll get through these 4 years not willingly.</p>
<p>I’m sorry you are unhappy. It’s harder for a shy person to make friends with groups of people - perhaps there’s someone in one of your classes that you could invite to eat with you. It would be better for you to take the initiative. Try to be natural about it, and pick someone who seems nice, not overly popular themselves. Talk about what you like, try not to talk about how unhappy you are. Be a good listener. Make a point of remembering what this person tells you and let them know that you had a good time hanging out with them. Don’t come on too strong, and try not to rely on one person. Ask someone else to eat with you and possibly your new friend after a few days. </p>
<p>If that doesn’t work, maybe think of another outlet. Do you have time for volunteering or getting a job off campus? That could lead to relationships outside of school. You may want to consider transferring, if you continue to be unhappy.</p>
<p>Hey there-It will get better-Here’s a tip for making friends.</p>
<p>Making friends 101: It all starts with the vibe that you are a friendly person. What is the vibe? Smile when you see people. Say hello and goodbye by name. Make small talk about something that the person likes to talk about (family, friends, sports, studies). Laugh and smile and make the other person feel good. Is it phoney? Yes, but so are all manners. Also, remember how good it feels when someone smiles and talks to you. Now, that’s the easy part. The hard part is that it does not come naturally so you must study and practice it. Start with the smile and basic hello’s and goodbye’s. Send out the vibe and hopefully it will come back. BTW these skills will payoff a million times over when it comes time to interviewing for a job and functioning in a corporate environment. GL</p>
<p>Thanks for the advice. As of right now I have only one person I could consider a friend as we sometimes hang out after class but the problem is he commutes so I rarely see him after class. I’ve tried to get a job off or on campus but have never managed to get one since I have no experience but I am probably doing it wrong. I’ll try and be more confident when it comes to talking to people, problem is it’s a small school liek I said and people are already pretty much clustered in groups and I find it harder to get into a group like this.
And as for transferring, it could indeed be an option but I actually like the school and it gives me great scholarships, I just hate it once classes are over haha</p>