i’m currently a second semester freshman at a smaller university. i’ve been back from winter break for a couple days now and i’m feeling a little off from how i usually feel. i know that’s i’m mildly homesick and i feel at this point i shouldn’t be so it’s making really upset. i also don’t have very many people that i talk to throughout the days. i talk to people in class and i’m in a few clubs however when i’m not doing those specific things i don’t have anybody to hang out with because everyone usually has plans with their respective friend group. i am also constantly worrying about what i’m going to do on the weekend because i don’t have very many friends and i don’t have a car. it’s getting to the point where i wish i could just go home but i can’t. in high school i had no problem sitting at home all weekend but in college i feel sad. i’m also conflicted about whether or not this school is right for me. i had a really rough adjustment at the beginning of the year when i first moved in and it got better throughout the first semester but i feel like i went right back to square one after winter break. any advice?
I think it can be hard to get back in the routine of being at school after being home for a long break.
Have you asked friends to tag along even if they have plans? Sometimes it takes that extra step.
Good luck and hopefully it will feel better after you get back into a routine.
Don’t fight the feeling of homesickness. Accept it. It’s a sign that you are loved. Missing home is part of the process you are going through. When you tell yourself you shouldn’t be feeling it, or that it should just stop or turn off like a switch that often makes it worse.
Recognize that you’ve probably made progress. You had a really rough adjustment first term. It might feel like a regression but likely not quite as bad this term. That’s a little positive progress. Life is often like that a few steps forward a step back and so on. Rarely are things perfectly linear.
The only way to make friends is to keep trying to make friends. Keep trying everyday, eventually it may click with someone. Also it might click at the most unexpected time or in an unexpected place. Be open to it. You can do this.