So I just entered college super excited but all my friends went somewhere different, a lot of us leaving our home town. Everyone seems to be having a great time at college but I am not making friends (it’s been 1 week) except for those my roomate is trying to connect with and the few that I know don’t text me to hangout. I feel like everyone knows each other and everyone parties and is loud and popular and it’s too typical college for me (my high school was pretty mature and I got a great world-view education). I even feel resentment towards my friends who are having so much fun at college, and I know that’s a problem. I know it’ll take time and be okay eventually but I’m pretty early to jump to conclusions. Any tips? Must do’s and DO NOT’s? Some of friends are trying to help me feel better but they’re so far and their experience is different. I also am trying NOT to rely on my parents
The thing to remember is that although it seems everyone on campus is connected and your high school friends are texting that life is great, it isn’t. Not for all of the. Many, many people give the impression that they have it all together and things are great when in reality, they aren’t. So be sure to take what you see and hear with a grain of salt. If it makes it worse to look at social media and snap/text with high school friends, maybe you should limit that?
It sounds like you are mature so maybe you need to seek out clubs and organizations that would support that and your interests. Its early and try to remember that most are feeling as you are even if they don’t show it! Hang in there.
Time to get over the fear of missing out. There’s no point dwelling on how much fun other people are having, focus on having a good time yourself.
I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. I’m in the same position right now. I walk around campus and everyone seems to know eachother and I feel so lonley and homesick. I had so many friends in highschool so being here is just depressing. It’s just nice that I’m not the only one feeling this way…
https://grownandflown.com/college-freshman-miserable-what-say/
Here’s some advice.
give it time. Hang in there!
thank you for this; that was really helpful to hear. I am getting involved in clubs, etc so hopefully soon I’ll find my people!
It’s okay to talk to your parents about this. They can’t do this transition for you, but they can be supportive. And it might be comforting to hear their voices. They love you.