<p>yes i am a loner on the wkends b/c:
1. ppl go home and i live 2000 miles away. my relatives live like 30-60 mins away but i don't wanna go there, esp if i have a midterm to study for tmro.
2. the other freshmen i know who do not go home (or either from nor cal or out of state) hang out w/ their roommates/suitemates. they don't understand that i don't have any roommates. my suitemates are never there either. so when it's time for meals, i don't have any or it makes me wanna barf cuz i don't wanna go eat alone. i starve on wkends or eat crap food. it's bad cuz i really need to make use of my 19P.
3. i usually eat w/ my bf who is also from out of state, but we recently broke up, we're not talking, and we're avoiding each other. it sux cuz every time i go to my room, i pass his room and it makes me wanna cry.
4. i usually don't speak to anyone on the wkends except for on the phone. voicemail, of course.
5. every time i call some1 to eat, they think i am a weirdo</p>
<p>make friends with your friends’ room/suite mates?</p>
<p>make friends with upperclassmen? theres no rule that says you can only be friends with fellow freshmen. im sure theres several people on your floor who are here on the weekends as well.</p>
<p>not to say that you need counseling, or anything, but did you know you can get 10 free counseling sessions at SPS? sounds like you just need someone to talk things out with and get your feet back on the ground. check it out!</p>
<p>and put yourself out there. join a club! that’s the easiest way to do it. there are tons of things out there, you’re bound to find one. or take a rec class at wooden next quarter (dancing, art, whatever the heck). there ARE things and people out there. don’t retract into your major/classes/dorm room… you deserve better! good luck :)</p>
<p>Which activities are you involved in? Have you considered talking to your R/A about getting involved with things on the floor at least or where you can find out more about groups, etc. and meeting people? I’m sure one of the RA’s can help you out. </p>
<p>It’s OK to eat alone. Do you eat breakfast? People are usually eating alone during breakfast and it’s fine. I’ve ate alone for dinner… it’s less common but it’s normal for the most part. </p>
<p>It’ll get better if you try… promise. I was pretty much a loner fall quarter with a few acquaintances and then I put myself out more and found cool people. It takes time.</p>
<p>for me:
4. “i usually don’t speak to anyone on the wkends except for on the phone. voicemail, of course.”
well my roommates spent this entire weekend inside the apartment. They went outside ONCE I think, to buy groceries. Otherwise they just watched tv and used computer. I dont know how typical this is for transfers in apartments who dont know each other before being roommates. I once out a few times - for club sport, meeting with classmates to do HW and getting lunch</p>
<p>At the clubs I’ve been to, most of the members already know each other, so they dont say much to new students.</p>
<p>Eating alone = normal. I like people-watching while I’m eating and just zoning out. You’re like, totes invisible. It’s kinda cool. Maybe bring a journal and make up stupid stories about people who walk by, whatever you writer-types do.</p>
<p>Make friends with other people on the Daily Bruin. Or at the very least, don’t annoy the **** out of them. Maybe then suggest having dinner after a session of whatever you DB-types do.</p>
<p>Calling people up to eat = not weird. You’re being a self-conscious narcissist. Nobody cares about you that much. Get over it.</p>
<p>Edit: Whaaat? You can’t say “p!ss?” Weak.</p>
<p>Edit: Sorry about the ex-boyfriend thing, dude. That’s really weak. Throw yourself into your schoolwork and try to get your mind off him.</p>
<p>Dude you live in the singles, how do you know if your suitemates are there or not? I’m assuming they don’t keep their doors open, so why don’t you knock?</p>
<p>yeah i should be more proactive w/ meeting new ppl. my suitemates aren’t social. i say ‘hi’ and they greet me back then immediately head back to their room, which sometimes sux if i’m lonely.</p>
<p>regarding my ex, i feel so bad losing him b/c he used to be so happy and obssessed w/ me. all of the sudden, he’s been treating me like *****…why do guys do that? i wonder what’s up w/ him but obviously he never talks to me so i have no clue. if i ever run into him, i’ll be VERY tempted to slap or kick him as a stress reliever. haha…</p>
<p>i just hope the next guy i date/have a relationship w/ will NEVER be such crap.</p>
<ol>
<li>Not eveyrone goes home. I mean, not a majority, maybe a significant minority.</li>
<li>Stop starving - get bcaf or rendezvous and bring it back to your room!</li>
<li>thats life. sorry.</li>
<li>why voicemail? </li>
<li>how do you know that?</li>
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<p>“my suitemates aren’t social. i say ‘hi’ and they greet me back then immediately head back to their room, which sometimes sux if i’m lonely.”</p>
<p>that’s because THEY figure you’re just going back to your room, too. which you are. unless you ask, hey what’s up? got any plans for tonite/this weekend? what’s new? strike up a conversation. ask how classes are going. if conversation is awkward, fine, maybe they’re being antisocial. if not, look you just had a conversation with someone! maybe invite them in to watch TV, or host a movie nite in the common room. ask them if they want to go to bcaf with you and catch up on stuff.
i’m in a single as well. leave your door open sometimes- as your suitemates pass by, maybe they’ll say hi! then say more than just hi back ;)</p>
<p>hey i just came back from bcaf and one of my suitemates’s room. we caught up and got to know each other better and i had some1 to talk to finally! the reality is i didn’t lose anyone significant; i can find any of the good features from my ex in almost any other guy at UCLA. haha for fastmed! i think he’s the one who lives in my bldg? i’ve never seen him before tho…</p>
<p>in general, boys are so difficult to deal with, yet i am intrigued…i’ll keep my eyes open now that i’m single. ;)</p>
<p>i’m bored on the weekends too. and as things turned out, i also spend most of my time hanging out with juniors o.O so don’t rule out older people, they aren’t that weird.</p>
<p>maybe we can meet sometime? i’m in terrace.</p>
<p>i have seen you before in terrace dawritingmachine. i think you added me on facebook a while back. forgot your name, but if i forgot it, it probably just meant that i did not want to remember it.</p>