<p>So I know this may be an over talked about subject but I need honest advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and he is my best friend. I care for him a lot. However, this fall i'll be transferring to a school about 2.5 hours away. I know this is not an absolute great distance, but I want to know, is staying in a long distance relationship in college worth it? Will I be missing out on some kind of experience? I don't believe I could find someone who is a better match for me then my bf, but I just do not want to miss out on any time of experience that I could have. Advice? Should I stay with him, or is it not worth it?</p>
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That’s really only something you can know/answer.</p>
<p>I’m a rising senior, and did not enter college in a relationship. However, at this point I’ve been able to see the various outcomes in my friends cases.</p>
<p>Several fizzled and burned, and they broke up by the end of the first semester (probably what everyone is telling you will happen).</p>
<p>A handful of my friends broke up with their s.o. by the end of year 1… only to get back with them a year later (so all of junior year), and are still with them now.</p>
<p>And then there’s the 10 or so people I know who are still with said s.o., going on a 6 or 7 year relationship at this point. 1 of them got engaged last week, and plan to get married post graduation.</p>
<p>So really, it could go any of these ways, and I doubt anyone on cc could give you anything other than anecdotal advice.</p>
<p>well, as long as he doesn’t find out…</p>
<p>2.5 hours Isn’t really a long distance relationship. What are we talking about like 200 miles? I know people who comute that!..Not really, but for real its not so great a distance that can’t be overcome. Stick with it, at the very least, you’ll find out who is lazy about the relationship. :/</p>
<p>I started dating my fiance the summer before I went to college. When he asked me to be his gf I reminded him I was gong away to college and if he was still ok with dating me. Well I went to a college 6 hours away and we still made it work. I came home once a weekend a month and he traveled to see me when he had the time and money. The main reason it worked was communication. We set up designated times when we would talk and we texted each other all the time. If you really want it to work it will. Good luck!</p>
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<p>I think it’s absolutely worth giving it a go. I wouldn’t see each other every weekend, it’s important not to miss out on friendships and other parts of campus life, but if you’re capable of managing your time I don’t see why that should be a problem. Sometimes it’s great to have a significant relationship outside of college, it gives you a bit of a break from your campus and work issues etc.</p>
<p>I don’t recommend it. You’re going to be meeting a ton of new people, and if you don’t break up with your bf, you might end up cheating on them. Not to mention, it’s really stressful to always be trying to align skype calls and visits- and if you’re always talking to them, you’re going to be missing out on campus events.</p>
<p>“if you’re always talking to them, you’re going to be missing out on campus events” what the h</p>
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<p>Princess- if the OP is going to cheat on her boyfriend, she is going to cheat whether it is long distance or not. A cheater is a cheater, whatever the distance. </p>
<p>And long distance relationships don’t mean that you’re always talking to people. </p>
<p>I was in about the same distance relationship as you were for 1.5 years and it was fine. We have since broken up, but because we grew into different people (we started dating at 15 and broke up when I was 20 and he was 21) and not because of the distance. Which very well may happen to you as people do grow quite a bit once they go to college. I rarely missed out on “campus events” because of my fiance. We would text throughout the day and talk on the phone at night for a bit, once in a while skype. Then we would see each other every few weekends. </p>
<p>Absolutely give it a go. If it doesn’t work then it doesn’t work, but you will spend a lot more grief thinking about the “what ifs” if you guys break up after being together for so long and break up solely because you left for college.</p>
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<p>I think it is absolutely worth giving it a try. At the very least you’ll avoid wondering about all the “what ifs?”. </p>
<p>With that being said you have to have some doubt in your mind for you to be posting this. I’d do some soul searching and see what you come up with :)</p>
<p>Goodluck!</p>
<p>I was with the same person from around senior year high school til I was mid twenties. I would give almost anything to go back and experience being single and college age. I really feel like I missed out on a lot of typical experiences. Now, years later than most, I’m discovering what it’s like to be independent. You have your whole life to be in a relationship but you’re only young once.</p>
<p>I really don’t understand what people mean when they say how they wish they hadn’t done certain things while they were young. What exactly did they miss? I’m not out of college yet, but I can reflect back upon my high school years, and I don’t miss ANYthing about high school.</p>
<p>Long distance relationship might not last for long as both of you may not be able to give the same time and attention to each other for long .But there couples who have survived distance relationships . So, the choice is upto you if you can manage .</p>
<p>I’m in a similar position. I’m going to school about 5 hours away, when I leave we will have been going out for just under a year. We’ve been talking about it and he knows that I will go out, meet new people, and that I’ll have my own life apart from him. He lives in the same city as my family so when I go home I’ll see him. Also every other weekend we plan on meeting in L.A. which is about in the middle of Bakersfield and San Diego. I don’t think a few hours distance is enough to throw away an other wise great relationship. In my opinion you wont miss out on anything, other than hooking up with random guys, but I’d gladly pass on that any day. Good luck, I hope everything works out with you two!</p>
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<p>My ex and i dated for 8 months but we loved each other so much. Unfortunately, I moved away so he broke up with me; he thought we had no future since we could never go to the same college and he wants to be single in college. The break up was supposed to be in a good term but then i ended up being so dramatic which led him not talking to me anymore. Do you guys think hes the right one for me? I know he loved me but i have no idea how could he do that to me. He asked a girl out gor homecoming date after we just broke up one week. Although, my friend said he always asks about me if I am doing ok. I dont know what to believe/do.</p>
<p>^ if someone breaks up with you over distance, then sorry no. He doesn’t sound like he’s worth it. Also why are you bringing up a dead thread?</p>
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