<p>Have you been in a LDR before? Did it work out for you?
I and my girlfriend are living far from each other now. We met at a summer program, and hope to attend college together. We are both seniors, but I don't know how to keep this relationship going. Anything besides skyping ?</p>
<p>One of my good friends was in a relationship like yours…they went to college together and I think they’re still together after two years. It can definitely be done.</p>
<p>Senior year they did phone calls for hours each day and met up every so often (for prefrosh weekend etc).</p>
<p>As for me, well I’ve been in a ton of relationships but none have worked out, RL or LD.</p>
<p>Normally, an LDR can succeed or fail depending on what type of people you both are and what your relationship was like before you guys moved apart.</p>
<p>In this case, your LDR will survive as long as it is very low maintenance and no other alternatives arise for either of you.</p>
<p>I used to be in an LDR, and things were fine from the start (we had known each other for a little over a year), but the whole ordeal became disastrous as the lack of contact and trust surfaced. I’m not saying that, due to my experience, LDRs are impossible, I just know that it takes a certain quality to support one. My girlfriend was very reserved and passive-aggressive, as well as too worldly philosophical (I mean, she applied the phrase ‘an eye for an eye’ to the way I treated her–really? This is love, not a freaking death trial), to fit in an LDR. I was too paranoid and self-conscious to be with her.</p>
<p>Bottom line is, if you two are compatible, negotiable, and compassionate, with the will to make the relationship work, it will definitely work. I wish you two the best.</p>
<p>It wont work. It never works. Sorry bro.</p>
<p>Why would you choose your college based on your significant other? What if you get into your dream school and he/she doesn’t? Would you seriously sacrifice that just to go to college with them?</p>
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<p>We won’t suffer if we go to a college that we both like?</p>
<p>Meh, I swear. Relationships ruin lives and hinder rational thoughts…</p>
<p>but what happens when you don’t get into the same colleges? Or, for example, you get into Wharton (dream school) and Miami (FL), but she only gets into Miami? Are you gonna turn down Wharton?</p>
<p>Okay… But this thread is not about whether I should go to the same college as my girlfriend. It is about whether we can make long distance relationship happen?</p>
<p>No, you can’t. Seriously, end it…</p>
<p>I already answered that question in post #5</p>
<p>Has this work for anyone? (if you have answered, thank you. I’m interested in knowing other people’s opinions as well :)</p>
<p>high schoolers are usually too immature for these to work without cheating. except, of course, if the significant other does not know your cheating due to distance. but, in reality, people need contact with other people. face to face, not skype to skype imho. but honestly, good luck, i’d like to see a LDR actually work. haha</p>
<p>No personal experience with this, but history isn’t on the LDR side, if you get what I mean.</p>
<p>Mine is 4 months and counting… It’d be longer, but about 2 months in I made a dumb mistake and we separated for 2 or 3 weeks… So 4+ months since we’ve gotten back together. I have trust issues, as do most, so I will say it’s difficult to balance control and trust… But if you need any tips on how to make it work then seriously, don’t be afraid to ask me, I won’t mind…(:</p>
<p>Edit: Details… We text all the time, send each other pictures. Usually not of a certain kind, but often times they are…(; Umm, we call when we can, I send her things, like my dead mother’s gold necklace, the only thing I had of her, umm, I bought her a steeply priced handbag when she mentioned she wanted it (shipped it to her house), sent her a coupon for a free drink at Starbucks (she’s a big Starbucks fan), we write each other letters, and though I’m a decent artist, I never draw, except for her, and I’ll do sketches of roses and what not. I think she’s coming to visit me in a bit over a month…(:</p>
<p>I forgot to mention my best friend’s temp. LDR with her sometime boyfriend. He transferred up to Louisiana for college for about a year, but they managed to stay together, and still are. He’s since relocated to his original university (although it’s still a three hour drive from where we live). They were almost always in contact through Skype, phone calls, texts, etc. It’s basically all about commitment and effort. If you’re going to have a pessimistic vibe throughout it all, of course it’s going to fail. You need to trust each other completely.</p>
<p>And yes, the typical high schooler is hugely immature and selfish, but (surprise) there are those who are prepared to delve into a serious relationship. And yes, an LDR isn’t an ideal situation, but if the two of you really do feel like you have something, it can be maintained.</p>