<p>"My ex went to UCI and I was going to community college and living at home about an hour away from him (not even such a long distance). It worked for the first year, we would see one another at least five times a week and have sleepovers all the time and such, which was time and gas consuming... I broke up with him a month and a half ago, mostly because I wanted to experience college life at its fullest. We were ALWAYS together, I lost touch with a lot of friends and I really depended on him far more than I should have... So the fact that I'm going to transfer and live away from my parents this fall probably had a lot to do with my wanting to break up with him!</p>
<p>I do miss him a LOT, but I am honestly enjoying dating and reconnecting with all of my old friends much more. I think people our age are too young to be tied down with a serious relationship, and now is the time to have fun... And I know next year will bring on so many more adventures that I would much rather experience single.</p>
<p>As for him, he was first very heartbroken. But now, a month and a half later, I can tell by the crazy/drunken/girls-all-over-him pictures on his facebook that he's having the time of his life... Which kind of bothers me, but I know I was really holding him back from having the college experience he should have. So I guess it worked out best for both of us.</p>
<p>So yeah, I think now is the time to learn about ourselves and live without any restraints. I rambled and I have no idea if this has helped, but good luck!"</p>
<p>seems like you think a relationship mean hanging with one person all the time. of course you still have to make time for your friends, job, school, and other stuff. i think your reason for breaking up is stupid and unjustified. people live college to the fullest all the time w/ a girl friend. </p>
<p>and this guy goes to UCI? and girls all over him? how come i dont have girls all over me? :( (actually i did in several pictures, then a certain girl got mad)</p>
<p>"So yea......all women are sluts. No offense to the women out there."</p>
<p>i dont see how this can be unoffensive. lol</p>
Serious, long term relationship to a dangerous, irresponsible lifestyle. Yep sounds like he's in a better position to me.</p>
<p>Just out of curiosity... What exactly is "experiencing college life to the fullest"? Is your boyfriend experiencing it now?...</p>
<p>If breaking up was merely an excuse to see other people, why shortchange yourself? Throw infidelity in the mix and you got yourself a real party!</p>
<p>The problem isn't the women really, it's the $900+/month incentive to get married!</p>
<p>I'm just so lucky it worked out for me. I read on here about all these guys chasing tail in somewhat desperate tones, and so aside from having a wonderful relationship I'm thankful for how much my marriage has allowed me to focus on my studies.</p>
<p>So, it can be worth it...but, if you've got to do a thorough and honest assessment to decide whether or not to hold on.</p>
<p>ok dont know if this has been brought up or not but heres my deal...im a senior in high school and i want to move in with my boyfriend once i graduate, but he lives in another state, i talked to my counselor briefly about going to an out of state college and all she said was "thats not a good idea" alot of good that did me...im determined to live with him as i am not so sure about us living here he has so much there and i have so little here...it would just be easier for me to move than him he doesnt go to school but has been thinking about going...my only worry is finance...i was relying on NHS and other scholarships to get me into a local school, and i know that out of state schools cost like 3x more, i dont have a job yet and i dont know how much money he makes...im so confused as what to do...i dont know if i should ask him to consider moving here for my education or if thats too selfish...i could care less where i go to school i just want to make our relationship work around school and work...opinions thoughts ideas, please i need help i cant figure this out alone</p>
<p>Oh boy. It doesn't sound like you've thought this through beyond the "I love him and want to be with him" stage. I agree with your counselor, it's not a good idea. Your priority at this stage in your life should be school. You said he hasn't started school yet either, so his job isn't likely that great (this is a generalization but the odds aren't in his favor, especially not with the economy the way it is). It's just not a good idea in almost every scenario</p>
<p>my girl is in norcal, and i'm at ucsd. we've been dating two years now, 1 year long distance. i think the most important thing is to have a solid foundation before the long distance starts.</p>
<p>But moving out of state to live with a boyfriend that might not be able to support the both of them and isn't going to school, while simultaneously jeopardizing your own education? It takes some creativity to make that make sense</p>