<p>I am currently in a long distance relationship with a girl, and, while we always assumed we would end up at the same school, it looks as if we are not going to. The way I see it there are three options.</p>
<li><p>End things now, making it easier to get over the other person and move on to college</p></li>
<li><p>Stay together over the summer, spending as much time together before the inevitable split.</p></li>
<li><p>Try to stay together through college (campuses most likely far apart) I have been advised against this one.</p></li>
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<li>ask her, instead of posting it on an online forum for random people you don't know to tell you how to live your life. but I'd lean 1-2.</li>
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<p>I was in your shoes this time last year - I was a junior about to be a senior, my boyfriend was a senior about to graduate. We tried to make things work through the summer and once he was away; it was a raging failure and left both of us WAY more miserable than if we had mutually decided to end things in the summer, at the very latest.</p>
<p>I'd say number 1 or 2. Undergrad long distance relationships rarely work out- but sometimes they do. And I guess you have to gage your feelings for her. Is this a relationship that you'd hate to lose, that would make you miserable not to have her as your girlfriend in college?</p>
<p>i'd like to be with this girl for as long as I possibly can before it's time to end it.......i realize it will be hard to start college coming off of this...but isn't it better to spend a wondeful summer together rather than let things die 4 monthes earlier than they have to?</p>
<p>I'd say just stop dating now and try to end romantic feelings. You guys can still hang etc, but then when you get to college you'll just be leaving her behind like you would a really good friend and it won't be quite as painful as if you were leaving behind your girlfriend.
I also agree that you should talk to her though... work things out like that.</p>
<p>sexyskispandex has a really good point. You don't want to be miserable thinking about her. It's best to try to cut off your romantic feelings as soon as possible so you can recover and move on with her as a lover.</p>
<p>I personally know a lot of people in long distance relationships (through seperate colleges) who made it through freshman year... it was sophomore year that was the killer. Good luck.</p>
<p>My significant other and I got together three months before I graduated from high school. We live in the same town, so we get together over holidays and breaks. Now, we're heading for three years.</p>
<p>In short, don't automatically discount long-distance. It sucks a lot, but for us, it was and still is worth it. You and your girlfriend should sit down and honestly talk about what you two want out of your relationship. If neither of you can accept lots of distance over lots of time, then maybe you should call it off.</p>
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<li>My GF just moved away in Feb.. thats what I did..
It happens to everybody.. college is just the next step, so I'd say enjoy it now, and when it's time to part, it will be somewhat sad, but it's something you knew was going to happen..
1 may leave bad/angry feelings with one or both of you.</li>
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<p>You just mentioned that she's pushing #1. Shouldn't that give you an idea? She seems to know what she wants and you're only trying to find excuses to get around it.</p>