long distance relationships....opinions please

<p>i know lots of people who have acutally made long distance work. Its just a matter of if you are willing to sacrifice the full college experience to stay with this person. If you do want to split up before college though, I would do it a few months before you leave, it will be hard breaking up and having to stress out about leaving home. Another option is stay together, go to college, and let it fade out like it probably will</p>

<p>Long distance relationships DO work... it just really depends on how much you want to work for it. I've been with my boyfriend for 14 months now, and 7 months of that 14 months relationship has been a long distance thing... so just work at it, it can happen :)</p>

<p>I'm in a similar situation. I've got your classic, high school sweetheart relationship, but he's going to be in Iowa next year and I'll be in LA. Our plan is to see if it works but not to force it if it doesn't. I know everyone is telling you to do number 1, but really, breaking up right now and staying friends isn't going to happen. If the only reason you'd break up is because you'll be far apart, "staying friends" while you're both at home either won't work or it will be a huge waste.
Good luck.</p>

<p>One...statsistically.</p>

<p>Few people who are our age know what they want absolutely. While your peers and freinds go out, you might be torn. It might be limiting, with respect to growth. Few of my friends were able to do the long distance thing over four years.</p>

<p>Not to say that it isn't possible, but with so many changes happening on a personal and intellectual level, insuring that both people are on the same page becomes more difficult. Even with cellphones and instant messeging it gets hard, especially when friends at school are tugging at you to get something to eat, go play a sport, or go study.</p>

<p>Anyhow, just my opinion.
IB</p>

<p>I'm in the same boat. Next year I'm going to college in North Carolina and he's going to Rhode Island. I'm not ready to just end it now and get over it but I'm not sure if it will work long-distance, but I'm willing to try. I don't want to have any regrets, that maybe it could have worked but I gave up. It's definitely not the greatest situation to be in. I'm leaning toward trying to make it work or just spending the summer together and then moving on.</p>

<p>Scarlet:</p>

<p>I'd suggest the latter. Just talk about it with him. If the two of you can stay friends and then decide later that each is the one, then it's okay to comeback together. If, during the course of college, the two of you grow in different directions, then at least you'll still be friends.</p>

<p>Start college without any long term commitments, if possible. It's the first time you'll have to make the majority of your decisions by yourself. You should be most important. Enjoy it.</p>

<p>Just my opinion. Do what's right for you. I tried staying with someone in high school (different states)...it was difficult and I missed out on some real opportunities because I was focused on making it work.</p>

<p>IB</p>

<p>i've been able to do the long distance thing for the past year.... if that makes any difference.</p>

<p>Thanks IB. That's essentially what I was thinking. I don't want to miss out on anything in college because I'm still attached to someone so far away. It's still sad though, moving on and away. I guess its just hard for me to let go.</p>

<p>1...1...1....1....You wouldnt want to live life miserably..it's best for both of you if you go for 1.</p>

<p>it's kind of weird.....i know she WANTS #2, but she's thinks one is the "right" thing to do.</p>

<p>Scarlet:</p>

<p>Just think of it as a chance to grow, for both of you. It is bitter-sweet...but it's for the better.</p>

<p>IB</p>

<p>In my opinion:
75%-number 1
25%-number 2
0%-number 3 (definitely won't work!!)
:):):)</p>

<p>does anyone have any experience in this matter</p>

<p>Yep...tried the long distance thing in HS...did not work well at all.</p>

<p>My brother has experience in the matter. He chose #3 and it almost ruined him.</p>

<p>Do the responsible thing: Take college like a break from your girlfriend. If, after 4 years, you look back and miss your time with her, talk with her and perhaps meet back up again.</p>

<p>Above all, don't limit yourself so much right before entering college.</p>

<p>"Ay me! for aught that I could ever read,
Could ever hear by tale or history,
The course of true love never did run smooth"
--Shakespeare</p>

<p>It's different for everyone, and I could never give advice on something so personal as this to a stranger.</p>

<p>If it helps, though, i'm going with number three.</p>

<p>Number 3 Fool! Love Can't Seperate S H I T</p>

<p>but for me it comes down to</p>

<p>is it worth having a great summer together at the expense of growing closer and making it harder to split up</p>

<p>or is it better to forego the good times you can have over the summer to keep from growing closer</p>

<p>I'd do the former...just as long as you communicate.</p>

<p>You guys can have a fun summer without being romantically involved.</p>

<p>Long distances, with few exceptions when its for a short period of time (1-2 years max), you see each other often (like once a month), and you share faith - simply dont work. About half end in the first year, most end within 4.</p>