ADD and ADHD treatment and medications have come a long way over the past decades. I am a fan of herbals and supplements for many conditions but this is NOT one of them.
(Herbals can have many undesirable effects also and very hard to dose also–there are no standards).
You are not doing your child any favors by not getting him properly treated. It is going to be rougher the longer you wait. Your family as a whole and your son have been suffering long enough. That’s why you’re here.
If ADHD is the proper diagnosis then medication will help tremendously with attention span and impulse control. For your son that means he can hopefully become more focused and improve socially. I’m sure he’d feel relieved to gain SOME semblance of control over his actions. Don’t deny him (or your family) the chance.
It’s not a quick fix since it can take time to find the right medication (there are several–some meds work better than others depending on individual chemistry) and the right dosage. And it can take time to determine if a med is working.
A treatment plan would include cognitive behavior therapy. All this makes it even more important to get started now.
As someone said, you’ve been trying plans A,B and C. Go for D.
I know many people have fears about taking medications especially for something that is about brain chemicals. You need to know that brain chemicals are just that-- chemicals. And when they aren’t in the right balance then people have problems.
The meds help get those chemicals get back into proper balance. People take meds to lower cholesterol, blood pressure, sugar levels as examples to get back into proper balance so the body can function better–this is the same thing.