Emerson is quite specialized http://www.emerson.edu/academics/undergraduate-degrees, offering a BFA in what is essentially a conservatory environment, and Purchase IS a conservatory. As is North Carolina School of the Arts.
This comes up a lot in music too: kids who want a “practical” major and degree but still want to participate in training and performance. You are absolutely right to think there are problems when a BA kid attends a school that also has a conservatory or other separate BFA program: the kids specializing in the performing art will get the best teachers, classes and performance opportunities, generally speaking (there may be exceptions- disclaimer!)
So she wants a liberal arts college, most likely. Colleges that Change Lives (website) will have some possibilities, including Clark, Marlboro (tiny, in VT). Bennington has an acclaimed theater program and a winter field work term. Sarah Lawrence is a great artsy school that would fit well with a kid who wants Skidmore. Vassar. Drew. Hollins. Brandeis. Many more. The problem is that many of these are selective. Check out Columbia College Chicago for a safety.
State universities would be a good possibility. Ours has a theater major that is a BA, not BFA http://www.umass.edu/theater/undergraduate-theater
I know several kids who went to Hartt School at U. of Hartford, who pursue acting either as a sideline or, in one case, as a career. I have to be honest: I feel sad when 18 year olds need to be so “practical” (loans are a burden, and return on investment is important I get it). It is sometimes misguided because theater training prepares students for lots of career paths outside of theater, and a bachelor’s of any kind gives access to grad and professional schools. An Acting BFA could certainly prepare for law school, speech therapy careers, sales, all kinds of things. And so many go to grad school now, a grad degree in education would probably be needed anyway.
It is too late for some BFA programs. I know Purchase has a later application deadline. Not sure about Hartt.
For BA programs, I have personal experience with Bennington and it is a great school, which has a beautiful rural campus balanced by that winter term in NYC or abroad or wherever the student wants to go, money allowing. It makes the top of many theater program listsbut allows for a lot of interdisciplinary and independent work.
Good luck! Hope Skidmore still works out but she is smart to be looking elsewhere. Hope is a hard emotion. But there is still some hope for Skidmore, just not a lot of reliable hope.
ps here is another list https://www.princetonreview.com/college-rankings?rankings=best-college-theater Apples and oranges because it mixes conservatory type programs with liberal arts colleges.