Loss of Motivation. HELP!

<p>Hello! I'm a new member and my first time posting here. This is going to be a little long, but I'd appreciate it if you could read it.</p>

<p>A little background to start: I'm a current student at a community college in the paralegal program there, hoping to graduate with my associate's this fall after I complete my internship at a law firm. I'm also in the Honors Program there. I have always been really proud of my academic achievements and was a very good student in high school. The reason I chose my local community college was because of my grandpa. He just passed away a couple of years ago but had really bad health problems, such as chronic back pain, swelling in his legs because of fluid, and finally, the complete loss of the use of his legs. Due to the fact that my grandma and aunt on my mom's side had passed away years ago and no family or friends to help nearby, my mom and I became his caregivers. Because of that, I grew very close with him and still miss him so much. So when it was time to think about college, the thought to going away to one of the state's universities never really occurred to me. I knew I wanted to go to college, but I really only considered my local community college. Sometimes I've wondered what it would've been like to go away for college, but I don't regret going to community college because the paralegal program and the law in general is really interesting, and I've had great teachers.</p>

<p>So here's my issue: When I started at my community college, I was very eager and was excited to study and do schoolwork. However, I've noticed that since my grandpa died, I've lost some motivation to study and do school work (this last year has been the worst it seems like). I hope to get a year of experience before going back to school and getting my bachelor's in paralegal studies or in another field that relates to the area of law that I want to specialize in. I may even want go to law school one day if I think I might want to be a lawyer, but that's kind of a stretch, so we'll see. This loss of motivation really worries me because I have my whole life ahead of me, and I don't want this to get worse as I get older.</p>

<p>There's no way I'm going to quit, and so I just push through, but I really need some help. Thank you! :) </p>

<p>All I am going to say is that your Grandpa is always rooting for you, no matter what, and that you owe the people closest to you to get a great education and live the rest of your life for them and for you. My heart goes out to you and your mother and grandmother, and good luck.</p>

<p>I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your had a wonderful grandpa, and that you are still grieving for him.
Do you have a church maybe that you can turn to for support to help you through this difficult time?
My prayers are with you.
For school motivation - maybe it will help to dedicate your school achievements to him? I like to think that my deceased parents still watch over me even today - think of how proud your Grandpa is of your hard work and perseverance.</p>

<p>Thank you for the kind words, both of you. I did have a wonderful grandpa, and I still do, just not with me right now. I have been talking to a counselor, which I feel has helped a little bit. I still feel like I’m grieving, but the grief isn’t as powerful as it was. That being said, I still miss him a lot and still think about him. I certainly agree with you both that I need to get my education because my grandpa, I, and everyone around me would be really disappointed if I quit. Thank you again. :)</p>