<p>I am about to graduate from a master's program and am faced with career decisions. My fiance lives in Asia, and all of the great job opportunities I've found are in Africa or the US. I really want to be with him, and the long distance has been taking a huge emotional toll on both of us. However, I am really torn because I want to pursue these amazing opportunities, especially after spending so much money and time to come to graduate school. He is contractually bound to Asia, and can't leave there for at least another year, and probably more. </p>
<p>Would love any opinions about what he and I should do...</p>
<p>Go for it. Your fiance took the opportunity in Asia without considering your relationship, why should you have to sacrifice? It’s not fair to give up your dreams for your fiance. Try to make the long distance thing work. If he’s an expat in Asia chances are he gets a plane ticket home reimbursed once a year. Take full advantage of that. My parents have been doing the Asia-US long distance thing for 10 years and they’re still happily married.</p>
<p>Actually their marriage is healthier than ever because they both mutually feel bad about the other being alone. So when they’re together, there’s never any infighting.</p>
<p>Decisions, decisions, decisions. What is more important to you? Him or your career? </p>
<p>If the tables were turned would he have the same dilemma? Are you sure?</p>
<p>Go for the career.</p>
<p>A year or two apart is nothing in the grand scheme of things. You’re very young and just starting off. </p>
<p>It won’t be easy but if the relationship is strong enough, you’ll both pull through unscathed and will be in a much better place to plan a life together, with financial security and good careers. Don’t compromise yourself, it will reflect in your relationship too, and you’ll be that much less happy in the end.</p>