My daughter is a sophmore at Macalester, and one of my best friends has a daughter who is a sophomore at St. Olaf. Both of us are from NY.
In terms of academics, both are great. My friend’s daughter is in the Great Books program (I think it is called) at St. Olaf. It is very interesting but also intense. If you are looking for an in-depth intellectual experience, look at that program. Friend’s daughter does science, but is also in the music program - which is the main reason she went there. Strong academics and strong music. I will leave it to others to comment on how people who aren’t musical fit in. The religious aspect of the school isn’t very overt, so I don’t think you will have many problems there. Religion does influence the campus, but in more of a thoughtful, be concerned about the world sort of way.
You say you have relatives in MN, so this may not be a problem for you, but one thing to consider about the relative locations is how easy it is to get to the airport. At Macalester, it is less 30-45 minutes by public transit. Even shorter by cab. At St. Olaf, you will have to more carefully plan when and how you are getting to the airport. Sadly, our family has had a couple of family emergencies that have required by daughter to get back to NY quickly. Being so close to a major airport made that a lot easier.
Macalester students can be politically intense and sometimes a little unforgiving of opinions that are outside of the “party line.” But there are tons of activities that aren’t at all political, My daughter was very politically active in high school. She hasn’t been as much so at Macalester, but has taken part in the community through things like tutoring local elementary school students, environmental activities, etc. I think you can find your niche.
Macalester’s location is a major selling point. It is in a quiet and upscale urban neighborhood, but just a short walk or ride away from all sorts of different activities and opportunities. If school or your classmates are starting to get on your nerves, you can easily get off campus and into the “real world.” My daughter takes part in activities at the local public libraries, has gone to free nights at museums and musical performances, goes to Minneapolis for street fairs, farmers markets etc. The Twin Cities are very vibrant and have a lot to offer. She hasn’t yet done any internships, but I imagine the possibilities are are lot bigger at Macalester than at St. Olaf’s.
However, some people want to spend their 4 years on a more typical college campus where the focus is mainly on college life. If that is your preference, St. Olaf’s is a better fit. At both schools, the faculty and administration are very supportive of students.