<p>Mmmkay so I know I'm not the only commuter on here, and maybe there are some former commuters. And there certainly are people who live off-campus which is basically the same.</p>
<p>Basically, I guess this thread ought to be for us to give advice to each other in regards to both making friends and dating as a commuter. It's no surprise that it's not quite as easy to do these things when you live at home/far from campus. You can't really just have an impromptu get together when it'll take you almost an hour to get to campus. You can't just hang out for hours late at night, going to bed at 3AM after traversing about campus. </p>
<p>So yeah, anyone got tips/advice/stories about this sort of stuff? I think it's the hardest thing about school for me right now. I've been meeting some people, but like I said above it's not that easy to develop these acquaintances. I've also joined some clubs and there are some cool people in them, but all my clubs have only met once so far.</p>
<p>And yeah I know it takes time for friendships to develop, no kidding lol.</p>
<p>I’m a commuter too, and personally, I gave up on trying to make friends on campus shortly after my first semester. I do have acquaintances here and there, but my relations with them are remarkably superficial - in the vein that the only word I utter to them most of the time is “Hi”. </p>
<p>There are other ways to meet people beyond college. I just started a quality assurance internship at a local software firm and have made a few more friends that way. </p>
<p>As for dating… you’re not going to make much an impact on a girl if you barely know her. In that case, I recommend waiting until you’ve become a proper adult (with a job, apartment, car, etc.) to start getting into the dating game. At least, that’s what I’m doing.</p>
<p>Not a terrible idea, but I still wanna get my feet wet and more importantly, learn to handle rejection. I’ve never been rejected, but only because I only ‘made a move’ once and that ended up getting me my first girlfriend. Better to learn now than when I’m 22 lol.</p>
<p>Unless, of course, you are aware of some hang outs for college students that you could go to and meet people. Also, as a commuter student, you can still join student organizations, right? I just joined YAL and I met like a dozen new people in an hour’s meeting. Free pizza too*.</p>
<p>*Oh yeah. I have learned that pizza in college is totally inescapable. It’s everywhere.</p>
<p>As a former commuter student it sucks!!! I had to actually join a club my 2nd year where I did make friends. I just made the commitment to stay on campus to at least 5pm everyday even after all my classes. I was very involved then but after I transferred to my 4 year life sucked. It didn’t have as many resources or interesting clubs. I lived about 30-45 mins from campus so making friends wasn’t easy. I attended school events but I didn’t know anyone. </p>
<p>Next semester I’m transferring to UGA and will be living on campus if I can get it.</p>
<p>@tobacco yup, I joined a few and one of them is the Off-Campus Students Association so that should be good. There were a couple lookers at the first meeting, so I’m hopeful…</p>
<p>@Amber everyone says to stay on campus… but what would I do? My books and **** are back home, and there isn’t really much for one to do aside from club meetings.</p>
<p>I did homework in the library sometimes. But most times I had a reason to be there. I committed to joining a club that always met up everyday. Most times we were just hanging out. It was a recording music club and we had our own room to use.</p>
<p>The problem at my school is that most of the social extra-curricular events take place 7:00PM or later. Even though I live only a ten minute drive away from my school, I am reluctant to stay on campus that late unless it’s for a job fair, a presentation from corporate recruiters, or a school project. </p>
<p>It’s hard to thrive as a commuter, because college lacks the structure that high school has. You can stay on campus as long as you want, but if you don’t have a reason to be there, then… well… it’s somewhat pointless.</p>
<p>Personally, I can’t wait until I graduate, move out of my parents’ house, get a real job (not the cashiering kind) and live life a little more fully than I do now. Right now, all I do is cashier on the weekends, study, or play video games.</p>
<p>You could always join clubs, right? Only makes sense because there’s a higher chance you’ll meet people that share similar interests…? I think?</p>
<p>Since my stats arent as good now…I was planning on hopefully <em>crosses fingers</em> transferring to Emory. I’m super nice, friendly and outgoing but Im still worried about making friends (i know it’s early :/) but Oxford students from Emory transfer after two years to the main Emory campus…so hopefully i’ll be fine…and I’ll definitely live on campus bc i think there’s a one year requirement to live on campus…</p>
<p>My problem is that I kind of have trouble making friends with people that aren’t muslim, black,somali/east african or middle eastern… hopefully that can change…</p>
<p>Another question: Would you say you’re gonna have to approach people or should you give it some time for people to talk to you…? You don’t want to come off as too desperate,right? :/</p>
<p>^^^Honestly, I sit in the cafeteria every day hoping someone will come sit with me (like they say everyone does because they’re all supposedly in the same boat… yeah right) but it doesn’t happen. I’ve found that, at least for me, I unfortunately have to do most of the work.</p>
<p>DC from what I learned you just have to go sit with a group of people and meet them. I know it sounds scary but that’s what it takes. I used to wait too but I never got anywhere unless there was a guy who was interested in me. They used to ask why I didn’t just sit with other people. Basically force yourself on other ppl but not in the illegal sense lol…and if they like you great if not screw them and move on!</p>
hopefully that can change…</p>