<p>so i guess im a little of a late bloomer. haven't found that many friends in college. one of my roommates is socially awkward and i just dont seem to click with my floor. i probably get along with more people on my friend's floor than my own. it kinda seems too late to be friends with people on my floor, people either are in their group of friends or dont leave their door open. i live in a small plaza so there arent that many people</p>
<p>and sadly im not in any clubs at the moment. tried out for ucla dragonboat but didnt make it, tried out bruinrunners but didnt stick to it. and it seems like everything happened during week 1 of fall quarter, and seems like i missed out or that its too late to get involved. what kind of clubs are still open for new members? what should i do to go meet new people?</p>
<p>trying to get myself out of this hole. im not super socially awkward. i just feel like i got a bad start.</p>
<p>i’m part of my floor’s government and i actually got an on-campus job, but i feel like i’m in the same hole as you. i’ve become amazingly close to a friend from high school although we NEVER talked in those four years.</p>
<p>i made a couple of other close friends, but i don’t really click with my floor either. one of my roommates plays WoW all day, and the other one i really just can’t stand hahaha.</p>
<p>i guess i’m still struggling to reach out to other people. send me a PM and maybe we can both get out of this rut together?</p>
<p>^ Lol on the friend from high school thing. Almost like me. (Except we began to hang senior year of high school a bit.)</p>
<p>The only thing I can really say is join more clubs. You’ve heard it before, and will again. (Suggestively, join clubs with a lot of social events. Even if you don’t feel like it, or that you think you won’t like it, try to go out to the events. BTW, I’ve found that volunteer groups don’t do that many socials, go figure.) Some kind of activity/hobby, major/field, ethnic/culture/language etc. clubs are a start. </p>
<p>Don’t worry about the floor thing. Most people I’ve met are at most casual acquaintances with their floormates. (Or maybe that’s just the type of people I meet. xD Heck, I don’t even remember the faces of my suitemates. lol, I also realized I don’t even know what my RAs look like. )</p>
<p>I kind of feel the same as you guys. I’ve thought of some clubs I plan to check out Winter Quarter, but I’ll just have to wait and see if I click with people at any of them. Feel free to shoot me a PM too, you guys!</p>
<p>only join clubs ur genuinely interested in or u wont make friends…also u wont be making friends at the club meetings…u make friends with the social events/parties/get-togethers that the clubs have…make no mistake about that lol</p>
<p>dont worry about that bad start or ur floor…happens to lots of ppl…and next quarter make sure to talk to more ppl in lectures/dis sections</p>
<p>yay for this thread!
pretty much the same thing for me :\ the majority of people on my floor are sophomores and they all chose to be there so they know each other. i never really clicked with them either and i also just feel uncomfortable because they already know each other so well. and for my roommates…they are also sophomores and best friends. i sort of feel like a third wheel lol anyways, i’ve met a few people here and there but haven’t made too many good friends. of course it’s also my fault for simply not getting out there: joining more clubs, being more social, etc. so i’m hoping to work on-campus and join more clubs next quarter to meet people…clubs accept members in winter quarter, right?</p>
<p>As jtanton pointed out, the key is not necessarily the meetings, but the “socials.” The events are where it all happens. (AKA, volunteer groups are probably not a good idea for these purposes.)</p>
<p>I feel like I’m mostly reiterating what most other people said here, but join something you’re interested in, and then (the important part) actually go to the events. A good place to start is with what you did in high school, if you were an athlete, join intramurals, if you liked robotics, join that. A huge benefit of going to such a giant school is that there will be people who do exactly what you do. That being said, don’t be scared to branch out as well, I joined a hip hop team first quarter and I’ve never danced before. Clubs definitely accept people winter quarter, and don’t let the prospect of going alone deter you. Think of it this way, if another person is in the same boat as you and decides to go to the club alone, you’re letting them down by not going yourself :)</p>
<p>I live in courtside, so although it’s nice I’m in the same situation as a lot of you where my house is very heavily sophomores. I feel like I’m missing out as most people’s main social crutch is their floor. My close friends first quarter were all acquired somewhat randomly. My biggest advice is to always reach out a hand to meet somebody, it’s tough, I know, it seems like everyone has already found their niche (they haven’t). Some people won’t be too receptive, but many, many more will. The way I see it is that even if I shake 10 hands and 9 are awkward situations and 1 turns into a good friend it was completely worth it. The most effective way to meet more people for me has probably been friends of friends. Be open to going to dinner with a group of people you don’t know or getting to know a friend’s floor for a night. Otherwise, class discussion works (you guys can end up studying together), work in the lounge for a night you’ll be surprised at how many people walk in, or just say hey in the elevator.</p>
<p>Overall, I’d say just be open and optimistic, not everything will work out, but if you keep trying some will for sure :)</p>
<p>Fenixx, you tried dragonboat, have you thought of joining ACA? It’s the Association of Chinese Americans (you don’t need to be Chinese to join) and they organize you into “families” and have social events, PM me if interested and I can get you in touch with some people who are active :)</p>
<p>good luck and maybe we’ll meet on bruinwalk or something :)</p>
I’ve thought of some clubs I plan to check out Winter Quarter, but I’ll just have to wait and see if I click with people at any of them. 
Feel free to shoot me a PM too, you guys!</p>