<p>Hello everyone! I am a commuter student to a campus where there are a lot of people that live there, but a greater amount that commute there. I guess my situation is that it is now the 2nd semester and I don't really have many friends at school and I am no where close to getting a relationship. Everywhere I look I see groups of friends having fun and people getting girl/boyfriends left and right. My question is, is how do I as a commuter student make friends and get a girlfriend? I work 2 jobs, am on the student senate, and take a 25 credit hours so my free time is almost non existent. Driving to school takes me about a half hour each way too, so driving in for events is just not really that economical for me to do either. </p>
<p>One of my irrational fears is that I will end up alone in college and miss my chance to gain a relationship and therefore miss out on future happiness. And as a worse case scenario I fear that if I am alone long enough in college that I may well...kill myself. That is like the wost case scenario like I said, but I consider all possible out comes. </p>
<p>You can’t just snap your fingers and expect to have friends and the perfect college experience. it requires some effort on your part. So put yourself out there and join or start a club or something. Get involved. There are clubs and groups for everything on college campuses these days. I’m sure you’ll find one that will interest you. Once you join a group w/ kids who have a common interest it’ll be easier for you.</p>
<p>I understand that you have a full schedule but I’m sure you can spare at least one hour to dedicate to one of the clubs you may join in the future.</p>
<p>Why do you people continue to give generic advice? “Join a club or start a club.” Umm, if it was that easy I don’t think we would have 98457907 threads every year asking about making friends/talking about unhappiness.</p>
<p>Because most people can make friends on their own and that’s really all the advice you can give to someone who can’t seem to do that. Also I could maybe give better advice if I personally knew the people in question, or what life is like at the schools they go to, but I don’t. Most people in life can make friends. It’s hard to give a step-by-step guide to doing it. It’s kind of a basic skill.</p>
<p>@sadcollegestud
how else is one to make friends?</p>
<p>Seriously people ask the question on here hoping to get some magical answer where it requires no work in order to gain a friendship. </p>
<p>It requires some effort, of course. How else can you make friends if you don’t push yourself to be social. Joining a club is the quickest way to make friends and possibly secure friends.
If you try to make friends in one class chances are next term you won’t ever see them again and you may just say hi to each other once in a while through a text or on FB. It’s really difficult to keep a friendship with someone you may not see next term. You also have to be interesting enough and hopefully have something in common in order to want to keep the friendship.
With a club it’s easier b/c you have a common interest and it’s not as difficult to start a conversation with someone who you know for sure likes the same thing as you. So once you join a club and if it’s a club that actually does meet up at least once a week then that is really good b/c you will see the same people regularly and hopefully the bonds last and can start to make long lasting friendships. That’s the best advice to give someone who is nervous about making friends, and wants friends that they hope to keep throughout their years in college.
What other advice could you possibly give?</p>
<p>I agree with paper, extracurricular activities/clubs, sports, organizations, etc. are great ways to make friends that actually share common interests.</p>
<p>Sadcollegestud instead of belittling others advice why dont you give some? your coments are futile, no wonder why your name is SADcollegestud youve probably been through the same as OP and failed.</p>
<p>Yeah I agree with most people so far. Definitely work on your communication skills. Making friends is sort of a skill, and it depends on how you communication and socialize yourself on campus. Just join a club or find a good party. Put yourself in position to meet new people. I’m sure once you put yourself out there you’ll be all set. Its all up to you. Good Luck!</p>