Making Friends

Student Lounge College Life
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<p>In high school I basically hung out with the same 5 people for 4 years, so it's been a while since I've made a new friend, and I just don't seem very good at it.</p>

<p>I was looking forward to making new friends in college, and the first week I really put myself out there and talked to a lot of people, but I don't have any friends. None of my conversations ever turned into a friendship. I hung out with some people, but then when the parties started I didn't want to go with them and that was the end of that potential friendship.</p>

<p>There are lots of things that go on on campus that I would like to go to but I don't have anyone to go with. And when I go alone I wind up feeling like the odd man out because everyone else is there with their friends. And clubs are the same. It feels like you have to have friends to make friends because it's very intimidating to approach a group of people alone.</p>

<p>Any advice?</p>

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<p>Definitely don’t need friends to participate in clubs.</p>

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<p>Yes, but what do you do when everyone there knows everyone else and you’re the only one that shows up alone and goes home alone?</p>

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<p>You should have gone to the parties.</p>

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<p>Why? I don’t party.</p>

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<p>Because you’re here complaining about how you can’t make friends, and that things seemed to be ok before they went partying. If you also went partying then you probably could have become closer friends with them.</p>

<p>Partying is good, too.</p>

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<p>“Yes, but what do you do when everyone there knows everyone else and you’re the only one that shows up alone and goes home alone?”</p>

<p>That’s usually never the case. And so what if you go home alone? You’re not gonna make friends that’ll take a bullet for you after an hour. Maybe after the first couple of meetings you ask someone if they wanna get a bite to eat.</p>