<p>All right, first off, this is my first year, and it doesn't actually start for a couple of days. However, I have already moved into the six-person apartment I'm staying at. Right now only two of us live here, and the other guy is almost always gone, which I don't mind too much. I feel though, that he (and many other people) has something against me. I say this because he's always talking late at night, when I'm trying to sleep and it's very distracting. Like I said earlier, I think people in general just don't like me for some reason, I'll see people with their friends kind of smirk and start talking quietly, followed by laughter, as though there is something wrong with me. No one ever approaches me to start a conversation, and I've never known what to say to start one myself. I've always been like this, and I was hoping that moving to this new town for college, would be better for me, but so far I still feel like an outcast, and I'd rather not because I don't have any friends in this town. I just hate always being alone, any advice before I start class?</p>
<p>You: Hey, wanna be friends?
Her: ehh. allright.
You: with benenfits?
Her: ...</p>
<p>You sound a little paranoid, especially the part where you consider your roommate talking to be a conscious effort to bother you. Just tell him you can't sleep and to talk in another room.</p>
<p>Anyway, introduce yourself to your neighbors. The fact that there aren't many of you moved in should help you become better friends with them which in turn should speed up your relationships with the rest.</p>
<p>seriously, you're roomate needs to go sit in the living room or on the porch if hes going to spend all hours of the night talking. The last place to do that is a bedroom. I could understand if it was a dorm and all you had was the hallway or whatever, but if this is an apartment...thats really disrespectful. </p>
<p>I dont even use my tv w/o headphones!</p>
<p>It could be a self-fullfilling prophecy where things turn out badly because you expect that they will turn out badly. Perhaps, people are like that because they think you're too quiet and assume that you're weird or don't want to talk to them. If you get past your fear, and work on starting conversations, then people will change their view of you and want to approach you. Getting past your fear may be hard, but taking action is the only way to solve your problems.</p>
<p>Yeah you sound paranoid. People aren't always smirking about you. It's the easy way out to claim that others are mean--you're probably a good person, so I'm not saying "blame yourself." I'm just saying, don't accuse others either...Start conversations and try to talk to them--if you at least make an effort people won't dislike you. They'll know you're at least trying to be friendly. People might not want to be your best friend but they won't consider you weird if you talk to them--if anything they will treat you civilly and leave it at that.</p>
<p>dude just be urself...cause everyone is in the same boat as ya. Because as long as ur not thaaatt weird then you should make friends.</p>
<p>Just exude a bit of confidence, and enjoy others' company. Whatever interests you, start a conversation about it. You shouldn't need to think about what to talk about.</p>
<p>A few years ago, I was at a residential summer program, and the first night we were there, my roommate stayed up until like 3:00 in the morning talking on her cell phone in the bunk beneath me. I was a little irritated, but the next day I just asked her to go out into the hall or down to the lounge or something if she were going to talk, and she was fine with it. All roommates understand if you ask them to be relatively quite when you're sleeping.</p>
<p>OP: you probably don't need to consciously make an effort to start a long convo about world politics or something, just be natural, say hello if you see ppl (roommate, neighbor, paperboy, convenience store clerk, hot girl walking dog, etc) if you have more time or if you are feeling friendly, add on a "how are you," "how's your day," "nice weather we've been having eh?" or "did you hear about that crackhead two doors down?" (jk). Anyway, don't expect every convo to be a philosophical debate on the merits of existentialism or something and you'll be fine.</p>
<p>Confidence is key. If you act confident in who you are, try and be social, there's no way you can't make friends no matter what you look like or how much you study.</p>
<p>maybe just throw a casual invitation to go get food together, when you eat together its natural to start chatting</p>
<p>maybe you should get pyschological help, seriously?</p>
<p>oh thass mean, yea just break the ice by saying something when theyre watching tv or something</p>
<p>how much does a polar bear weigh??!</p>
<p>enough to break the ice!</p>
<p>ha ha ha.</p>
<p>...</p>
<p>i'm more worried about losing contant with my old friends, i'd give blood for them on the spot, as they would for me</p>
<p>It's alright ozym... ill give blood for you.</p>
<p>i also need some clean urine for a job interview</p>
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<p>btw i'm doing alcohol edu right now</p>
<p>Aww, I feel for you. Sometimes I get paranoid and think that people only talk to me b/c they feel bad, or that they're laughing at me behind my back...but the truth is this kind of attitude just invites that kind of behavior from other people! It causes you to act awkward, unsure, and not be yourself, and then they /will/ start talking behind your back. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. </p>
<p>People probably don't have anything against you so early on. And even if they do, ignore it. Always try and be yourself, and don't be afraid of what others are thinking or saying. Say 'hello' to people, be friendly, chat, and when school is in full swing join clubs that have to do with your interests.</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>