<p>...and by friends I don't mean mere acquaintances. It's only been one week so far, but I feel as if I haven't fully gotten used to some of the folks I've met. I can talk, but I'm not really a social person (especially around females). Does anyone have any advice on this?</p>
<p>clubs clubs clubs</p>
<p>! :-D</p>
<p>try to be outgoing…clubs arent for all…especially if they’re dominated by over-achievers…</p>
<p>find friends where u can…do work!</p>
<p>those develop to be work buddies. i have friends that do hw with me, go to class and share lecture notes. but thats like as far as it goes, you dont get into their circle of friends or w/e. you will stay as a hw buddy. once the person has no classes with you, you’ll be back to acquaintances. </p>
<p>for starters, add people on facebook and stalk them</p>
<p>actually im kinda like you probably. nothing ever pops into my head so i never say anything (esp to females, we just dont click man. i like against everything they say and do hahaha), in class or outside. the only times when something pops in my head is when im infront of a computer. its weird but i guess i prefer silence… now my 4th year here and i still have no friends.</p>
<p>Just talk to people, be open and friendly, I thought that it was easier to make friends being a guy >.<</p>
<p>Anbu - if you have trouble talking to classmates about just stuff…try practiicng. when you are in front of your computer, note some weird or odd or interesting events or things.
then the next class, mention them. " Hey, did you see…" tiy din’t need to be clever about it - but try to pick something fairly general, not too related only to your own interests.</p>
<p>talk about random stuff. sit with random people at lunch. most of the times, friendship will not result, but good things will result over time. explore your floor and floors above andf below. join clubs.</p>
<p>It’s very good to be random in college.</p>
<p>don’t try the random thing with girls (if you’re a guy) or a guy (if you’re a girl) unless you’re cute…</p>
<p>b/c if you’re not cute they’ll think of you as creepy (serious)</p>
<p>agreeed. people are really judgmental these days. though i dont really care what people say to me… if an ugly girl started saying random stuff to me, id be cool with it lol</p>
<p>I’d be cool with it too, but if you’re too cool with it then they ask you to hang out later… and that’s an awkward discussion.</p>
<p>Make sure your doing everything you can to talk to people. Many think that they have to be approached. </p>
<p>I never noticed how stuck up I looked until someone told me. So im actually used to being the silent type. I have a habit of waiting for people to come talk to me. When I was told how stuck up I look because I don’t talk to people, I started being more open. Not that I wasn’t already an open person, but stepping outside of my comfort zone, and showing others that I was approachable helped considerably.</p>