<p>My girlfriend and I have been dating since age 13, we are madly in love with each other and would love to get married right before college. We both want to go to college together (her to pursue music and me medicine) and be married at the same time. I would like advise though, not necessarily on marriage but finances. Is it possible to pay for the cost of living and tuition at such a young age? She comes from a upper class family who has a good amount of college money saved up for her but they don't really wanna baby her. My main concern is the cost of living. Is it possible? What can we do to help ourselves. Is getting married while going to college completely un-practical?</p>
<p>Yes. There are lots of ways to do things but getting married before the age of 24 at the very least is absolutely insane and is almost guaranteed not to work. Makes no difference if you’re madly in love or not.</p>
<p>It’s possible but it’s very difficult. My boyfriend and I cannot work enough hours to afford an apartment near our schools without dropping below full time status students, which we are not willing to do. That, among other reasons, is why we are waiting.</p>
<p>My best friend dated the same guy from age 12 to 20, everyone thought they’d get married-- including them. They had been engaged for two years when they ended up breaking up. College was too much for them. A year later he has a child and she has bought a house with a childhood friend she is now dating. Tread carefully, here.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t recommend this. College is very tough on couples in general and a lot of people who think they’ll be together forever end up splitting up. If you’re still together in four years, congratulations, get married then.</p>
<p>This isn’t your question, but why do you want to get married so young? College is a time where a lot of people change. Chances are you guys will too. You may not be the same person with the same ideals as you are today in four years.</p>
<p>If you need a legal agreement to keep you guys binded to one another because you’re worried something in your relationship will change, then you probably shouldn’t be getting married. I second the above. If you’re together in four years and after you graduate, get married then. Makes no difference if you get married in four years, but there is a difference if you get married now.</p>
<p>If you get married though, you will be classified as an independent when it comes to federal financial aid, which could help you get more.</p>
<p>Pathetique-- or in some cases it makes them get less, and they are also then required to pay for their own health insurance.</p>
<p>I’ve seen married people go to college and they did well (grades-wise). However, they seem tired most of the time and they are always in a rush. They would always tell me “It’s so good you are not married and you dont have kids”. So if possible, try to avoid marriage until you graduate because being married while in college seems too hard…</p>
<p>Wow…What’s with the rush? If you love each other that much then you should have no problem waiting. You both will still be together after college. It’s possible but honestly you’ll just make your life tougher for no reason.</p>
<p>This is cute lol. It made me smile :).</p>
<p>But I have to side with the rest of the jury on this case. Bad move to get married so soon. Plenty of time for that later.</p>
<p>You only live once. I say go for it.</p>
<p>Uh, I got married at 21, im in college, and it is working great for me. I don’t have any kids tho, now that would be rough to have children and go to college. However, many people have kids and are successful with their education too.</p>
<p>As far as finances go, well, you can make it work. Many universities have dorm/apartments for married couples that are around the same price as regular dorms, maybe just a little bit more.</p>
<p>If you both have the same goals, graduate, know where you want to live, if and when you want children, all that jazz…, and support from your families, then go for it.</p>
<p>First complete ur studies & than get married </p>
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<p>TwistedxKiss, I know, that’s why I said “could”. 
I forgot about health insurance, which is a very good point too.</p>
<p>“You only live once. I say go for it.”</p>
<p>-The exact reason I would say don’t go for it.</p>
<p>Well, if you do decide to get married and are planning to live in married housing, make sure that it’s not just for grad students. My parents got married in their third year of college, and it was pulling teeth to convince the housing people that they were not going to be rowdy undergrads disturbing everybody.</p>
<p>And I would definitely agree that it’s not a very bright idea to get married in college. Especially not before your first year.</p>
<p>I agree with you<em>of</em>eh.</p>
<p>“TwistedxKiss, I know, that’s why I said “could”. I forgot about health insurance, which is a very good point too.”</p>
<p>Just wanted to make SURE the OP understood that because that could be a giant mess. My bf and I considered getting married sooner than originally planned because it would get us more financial aid, but there was some major calculation to make sure it would actually pan out that way. We ended up deciding to wait anyway but some people find out after they get married that they’re losing aid. I think it’s because something like students assets aren’t as protected or something like that. Not sure, taxes and the like are perhaps my dumbest topic.</p>
<p>The health insurance was one of the main things holding us back, it’s mainly that and our housing situation. I could not possibly hold down a job right now and boyfriend’s job is not stable and does not have health benefits. And we’d never be able to afford private insurance, my parents can’t even do that for my family. Life will be much more comfortable for us if we wait until we can secure affordable insurance. We both have crap insurance right now but it’s better than nothing, and I am clinging to better than nothing until I can get something better!</p>
<p>Another thing to consider is what’s happening after graduation. He is entering a certification program in 2012 that could send him anywhere in the country, and I will likely either be still in Michigan or somewhere in New England, or possibly out of the country depending on what opportunities I decide to take. When we were freshmen we thought we were graduating the same time and that I’d go to UM law school and he’d go to UM med school and we’d live together in Ann Arbor and everything would work out perfectly. Then he realized he couldn’t get into med school as of beginning of junior year, the clinical certification program was already full for 2011 so he has to graduate the year after me, and a LOT more opportunities opened up to me to study in other potentially better places. Things changed. Our relationship has stayed the same, but I would rather wait to get married until we can actually settle down together and actually BE together. I could have never predicted this kind of chaos in my life as a freshman, though.</p>