<p>I applied as a transfer for fall 2014, and I am kinda dreading if ucla accepts me. Honestly, I didn't feel like I fit in there. All the people I talked to there were over-achievers x2. I will be a humanities major (currently with a 4.0 gpa), but ucsd and Irvine seem a better fit for me. I just feel like a hypocrite since I always dreamed of being accepted to ucla. I struggle with mental health issues, so it just seems like ucla would overall be too overwhelming at this point in my life. Am I crazy if I turn down ucla? Anyone know anyone who did this or planned on doing this? I seems this post is just a way for me to rationalize the vibes I had at each campus....oh well. I appreciate any comments!!!</p>
<p>If it’s not the right place for you, it just isn’t and that’s totally fine. I was told that I had great chances of being accepted to UCLA but I did not even consider applying. It is a great school, it just is not the right one for me. Maybe you can go visit the schools and then make a decision. It’s a great school for sure.</p>
<p>Thanks for your response! I am thinking I may get more aid at the other two anyway or at lower schools. :)</p>
<p>excuse my faux pas but if you have mental issue how did you manage to keep a 4.0 gpa?</p>
<p>Wait and see. If you get accepted, visit it a few times during classes and on weekends. See if you can make a connection. If you still don’t like it, don’t go. If the last time you looked at it was when you were in high school, you might now find it is a match.</p>
<p>^ I agree. You might not even get in and then you will have wasted time worrying. Once you have your acceptances and financial aid packages, you can make a final decision. :)</p>
<p>I doubt there’s any difference between the rigor and quality of students at UCLA vs UCSD.</p>
<p>If I don’t focus on my health, it can get to the point where I can’t do anything academically. I am "stable " for now. It is possible. My classes we’re easy . No hard maths or sciences. For anyone with health concerns, don’t go to the counselors at a cc, they don’t know anything. I am considering the career of a cc counselor due to the lack of training these types of people have. Man, I am everywhere in this thread.</p>
<p>First priority is your health. You know that. If you’re healthy now, it is in part because you know what derails your health. </p>
<p>You also know there’s a formula for how you’re supposed to go to an intensely competitive college after high school, graduate in four years summa cum laude, get a job in a highly competitive firm, etc. You’re not following the formula exactly, and that’s good for your health, too.</p>
<p>You’re showing a lot of maturity for someone your age and with your health issues. I would say you’re showing good judgment. </p>
<p>If a school doesn’t feel right, particularly if it feels like it might derail you, don’t go there. I think UCSD and UCI are competitive, too, but if YOU don’t get that feeling you get at UCLA then check them out, always with the option to withdraw any semester that gets to be too much.</p>
<p>I cannot emphasize enough, however, how many of my students (90%?) who fall ill during a semester do NOT seek support early enough. Asking for help as soon as the symptoms show up is key to your success that semester. The longer you wait to seek support, the more you tie the hands of your professors, guidance counselors, and administrators. Midterms are a crisis trigger for many students, as you might imagine, but often often often the student does not tell anyone about their illness until right before or after finals. It’s hard to help him or her then. </p>
<p>Each school has drop dates by which you can withdraw and take a W. Know what they are. Even earlier than the Drop dates are the withdrawal dates by which you can withdraw and get your money back. Know what they are. Protect yourself. Protect your money and grades.</p>
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<p>In my experience I’d say that would probably accurately describe 90% of the student body.</p>
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<p>For what it’s worth, UCLA has an amazing counseling center including groups where people can come to talk about their problems, and where you can schedule one-on-one appointments with counselors. I think it’s a pretty standard feeling at UCLA to feel overwhelmed and perhaps even wonder ‘How the hell did I even get accepted here?’ Perhaps that’s common at any elite university. The workload isn’t too daunting, but yes, it’s likely that you won’t maintain your 4.0 (but that might also be true at UCI and USCD.)</p>
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<p>No, you’re not crazy. People change their dreams all the time. There’s nothing crazy about not attending a school that you don’t feel you’d be a good fit for. You should think about the decision hard though. You don’t want to have regret from going to another college knowing that you could have gone to UCLA. But given that UCLA received over 105,000 applicants this year, the decision might be made for you.</p>
<p>Good luck with your decision!</p>