<p>I'm currently a sophomore engineering major, and I'm interested in meeting new people. I live off campus and am not a total introvert, but I'm not a social butterfly or especially good at networking/keeping up with acquaintances. Just an average guy, I suppose. </p>
<p>I have my "dorm friends" from last year and my friends from my major (I'm in a club related to my major). Sometimes we'll go to SF or RSF or do random stuff like a movie night every now and then, but for the most part my weekend nights aren't spent doing much. Part of the reason is that my friends who do go out to parties usually go with other friends ( from sorority/frat or whatever) and a good portion of my best friends don't drink or end up hanging with their gf or at home (here in berk or traveling to HOME home).</p>
<p>I'm not saying I'd like to rage every night, but after moving out of the dorms and and one of my best friends who would usually take me to parties with him moving away from berk, it's been a bit of a drag. I've been thinking a lot and I don't want to end up like some seniors I know who just studied their way through school without having fun, meeting cool people, partying a bit, or having any relationships. I mean I still have good friends and don't want to sound like "OMG Y AM I NOT INVITED 2 PARTIESS," but even though I'm have a decent time (to a certain extent haha... freakin morning class is such a bummer) I just feel like I could be getting more out of college.</p>
<p>So basically... what is the best way to expand your group of friends? Join new clubs? If so what clubs (professional? cultural? most don't seem that fun, but that's what I thought about the one I'm heavily involved in before I joined it I guess...do I need to get rid of my "too cool for AAA/EJC/random club here" attitude?)? Talk to strangers in classes? Is it mostly a personality thing (I'm not outgoing enough?)?</p>
<p>I am also interested in meeting new people.</p>
<p>For me it goes a bit like this. I might meet someone I like randomly or in one of my classes. I might add them on facebook, but about half the time I will never see them again.</p>
<p>The other half of the time, I see them regularly in class or whatever and we still talk, but outside of class we don’t do anything. The whole thing just stalls at the acquaintance stage.</p>
<p>Someone is going to reply that I should be the one to take it outside class, but it’s not that simple. Men simply do not plan outings with other men. It has to be done spontaneously, otherwise there is this uncomfortable queer vibe to it.</p>
<p>^^ Haha I, a lot of the times, prefer hanging out with my gay friends as opposed to my straight friends since they tend to be a lot more funny and never boring. Yeah it seems a bit harder to make friends while in apt. and 95% of people I talk to in class never pass the acquaintance mark and often fade once the class is over.</p>
<p>One gay guy? Is your gaydar broken or something? I swear I meet one everyday! The trick is make friends with one gay guy and than they introduce you to more and sooner or later you will have like A LOT of gay friends haha</p>
<p>@rofflez:
I see that you are a bit of a shy person like me.
I met most of my friends from classes/discussions and later we would go to basketball games and eat together. Just step up the game a bit by introducing yourself to as many peers as possible and things work surprisingly well for you haha. Eventually you’ll end up with 2~3 people who really understand each other.</p>
<p>Seriously Batman is right. I guess I just gave up after trying so hard to make some people open up. Relationships become sincere and then the faking breaks out again… Who cares if you are a bit self-conscious just like everybody else? Annoying as hell. Where’s genuine people who arn’t afraid to just be honest and sincere?.. Or am I just meeting frat boys?</p>
<p>@Clear - A mature friendship consists of mature people. A mature person does not think like Holden Caulfield. When finding himself unable to get along with everyone else, a mature person does not blame everyone else.</p>
<p>Now, I’ve got a better question. How do you tell the difference between a person who is fake and a person who is not fake?</p>
<p>Yea, some people have told me that UCLA people are “fake.” I don’t think my UCLA friends are necessarily so; they’re just energetic in a peppy way, ha.</p>
<p>I don’t think I need to tell you the characteristics of a non-genuine person. The descriptions are all over the forums. I certainly hope you have the capability of knowing who is fake and who isn’t. I don’t blame everybody. I have flaws too but at least I don’t act like I am perfect and better than everybody else.</p>