<p>I've been living in a dorm for almost a week now. For like the first 2-3 days it was super easy to meet people, but I kept forgetting their names/details. (I only had a few friends in high school so I didn't have many people to keep track of, lol.) But now, since classes have started, I can feel the other girls in my dorm kinda dividing into clusters and cliques and generally being a little less open to others. </p>
<p>There were people who I hung out with for the first few days who aren't as interested in doing things anymore now, and a few of them are even downright dismissive. I have one friend who I knew before coming to college, and another girl who might be a potential new friend, but everyone else seems like they're just being polite but not really wanting to hang out outside of classes. </p>
<p>I went to a party last night, and I met some people, but like everyone was having these deep genuine conversations and/or having fun dancing. I was too awkward to dance much, and whenever I talked to people I felt like I was just cutting into whatever they were already saying. I honestly don't know if people were ignoring me or if I was just being paranoid and overanalyzing things. </p>
<p>Do you guys think that it will get better, or worse? I'm afraid that, as the semester goes on, everyone will just form their own little friend groups and not really talk to anyone outside of them.</p>
<p>It’s really helpful to meet people and develop friendships when you are involved in the same activity whether it’s a service organization, a club, a religious group, working on the campus newspaper or yearbook, playing an instrument in orchestra or participating in a choral group , a club sport…hanging out in the student center or if there is a an open-house or get-together in the department for your planned major. It’s very early in the semester but many classes encourage study groups and you can be the organizer of a study group for one of your classes as a starter.</p>
<p>I’m Kinda going through the same thing. It’s quite sad. There was a pool party last night. I didn’t wanna go but I went anyways. I ended up meeting people. One girl invited me up to her room for a movie. I really just wanted to go to bed but I figured there’s no way ill make friends if I’m all alone in my dorm. Then this morning we saw each other at breakfast and saw another girl from the pool party. So we all sat together. Then another girl came and ask us if she could sit. I talked to her and realized she’s only 3 doors down from me. So I’m gonna try to hangout with her or something. I told her she could come by whenever and she said the same. Things look like they’re starting to pick up. I hope they stay this way. I guess just give it time. And don’t pass up chances for making friends. There’s another girl who I’ve been eating with every day. I admit she’s kinda annoying. And not very outgoing. But she’s really nice and I’d rather hangou with her than hangout all alone in my room missing my family. So take what you can get I guess!</p>
<p>School is just starting. The majority of your “friends” from the first couple weeks you won’t even talk to by graduation. Sure, some people will be more insular than others during their 4 years but the majority of people will accept new friends into their lives as their circles change and intersect with others.</p>
<p>People want to hang out with people are fun to be around. Just relax and have fun, participate in the activities that appeal to you and the friends will come.</p>
<p>Just go with the flow. Friendships don’t develop within a few days. Keep meeting people and talking with them, but don’t expect every person that comes by to stay with you.</p>
<p>I have the same problem but I also have trust issues stemming from the belief that everybody eventually just leaves me. As my roommate pointed out the other day, everybody likes me. I’m easy to get along with and easy to trust. It’s just hard for me to see what I have in common with people. I always just see what’s different so I feel like an outsider.</p>