<p>Thank you all for your comments. I do appreciate the informaton, though I do not necessrily agree with your opinions or inferences.</p>
<p>For the record, contrary to post #11, I never offered an opinion regarding M'burg - -I asked a question (does the presence on NA students indicate that the sch is conservative?).</p>
<p>And while DH and I have no desire to indoctrinate D, like most parents, we want a setting that will reinforce our values and where D will be comfortabhle. And while most schools would insist that they encourage students to think for themselves, the school culture overall, as well as the manner in which individual teachers present in-class material and guide discussion subtlely (or not so subtlely) are nudge a student towards a particular perspective. </p>
<p>Discussion of many historical event/figures (M. Sanger) and social issues (gy marriage) are likely to be approached very differently at a religious schools, conservative secular schools and liberal secular schools. An atheist might not consider a sch that required the study of religion. And I want D's science class to teach evolution - - w/o also teaching creationism and giving her the oppty to form her own view re: which is valid (not that I'm suggesting tM'burg would teach creationism). </p>
<p>Likewise, when older D applied to college, she immed eliminated Catholic schs from her list b/c of parietals and b/c health services don't dispense birth control (except for acne!) or plan B. And having older Ds, one of whom became sexually active in hs, one queston I never asked when older D was considering BS for 9th grade, but which I always for D considering BS for 11th grade *even though D currently has no BF), is, "can girls keep birth control in their rooms or must that also be kept at helath station w/ other meds?" </p>
<p>IN any event, other posters need not share our values or rate factors as we do, but to suggest that we are "wrong" or "too sensitive" is incredibly presumptuous (post #14). I am certain that there are other criteria, such as number of black students, that are more important to us as a bi-racial family, than to other families. And, if our criteria don't work for you, don't embrace them as your own - - but don't presume to know better than me what is right for my D.</p>
<p>As for visiting and fit, we have eliminated any number of schs w/o visiting - - sometimes for "non-fit" reasons such as distance and availability of finaid,and sometimes for what some might consider "fit" such as ration of boarders to day students, gender parity and diversity. Also, I believe it is much easier to get a sense of any "fit" aspect as a member of the dominant group (as a friend whose gay son attends BS stated, "social minorities get a lot get a lot of 'false positives' on visits). So, if DH believes the sch to be too conservative, we probab won't make the trip (just as we haven't visited schs were we believe D is unlikely to receive what we consider to be sufficient finaid).</p>
<p>Again, thanks for the info - - but please, give me facts (like post #2, 8, 13), I can draw my own inferences.</p>