<p>^Again it is freedom of choice. My S. refused to be at private school. D. benefitted tremendously with the result of us not paying any tuition at college because of Merit scholarships. Both are OK. My plan is go with the flow, iinfluence to certain degree and then back off. My priority is definitely having a job, not kids’ college research. But having said that, I had done very good in college research and D. is in a program at college that I have discovered for her, not she, not her college counselor, cannot rely on anybody. While traveling to various interviews during college admission process and meeting very many parents in the same situation, I was shocked to discover how many parents have no idea, no information. I was better informed about opportunities in their own towns, than people from those towns. Unbelievable to be ready to pay thousands and have no information what the choices are (some do much more research buying a car). I would advise anybody not to rely on others including your own kids. You are paying money, do your research, know what choices / opportunities.</p>
<p>After all of that, D. who is going to apply to Med. Schools in few weeks, has asked me to come up with the list of Med. Schools and put all in spreadsheet just as I have done for her Undergraduate. Of course, she gave me criteria. I did that, she discussed everything with her pre-med advisor and ready to apply as soon as she takes MCAT and get her score.</p>
<p>However, I would never quit my job for all of that. Somebody else might be in different situation. By the way D. is in very selective program that has only 10 spots for incoming freshmen, that appeared to be a perfect match for her.</p>