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As my children were growing up, I (and I assume like many of my peer parents) encouraged my children to do as well as possible in school assuming college admissions was a meritocracy. I assumed those with the best grades would get into the best schools.
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Well that's your own fault. It's not hard to figure out that most selective schools utilize holistic admissions. Why didn't you just visit the school's website or read a brochure before giving your kids bad advice? You are really in no position to be complaining about the system.</p>
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In reality, since many colleges are seeking, a "well rounded class of individuals", college admissions are more based upon the whims of the individual college and are NOT based on a meritocracy of grades as they are in many other parts of the world such as India.
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Ok "whims" is a poor choice of words. Are you suggesting that those attending highly selective schools were accepted simply because of luck and not because of their accomplishments?</p>
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I think this leaves alot of parents and students confused. I think alot of parents and students feel mislead at the end of the process. If you didn't attain the college placement of choice it feels as if you have lied to your child for most of their life. This is an awful feeling. My first did attain his desired school but the empathy I felt for his peers who didn't was real and palpable. The rejections said more about the schools applied to than about the students.
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Again this is your own problem to deal with. The parents who feel like this are the ones who are obsessed with having their children attend Ivy league schools.</p>
<p>Also, what students in Korea, China, India, etc. have to go through to get into top colleges is much worse. I doubt anyone except for Asians/foreigners who are already used to college admissions being a "meritocracy" where whoever grinds through their work and standardized tests the hardest is rewarded want college admissions to be a "meritocracy."</p>
<p>Lastly, keep in mind that national exams in other countries are much more legitimate than the SAT and ACT.</p>
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The other thing that really confuses, and bothers me, is this idea often stated on this board that the student who merely studies hard, does very well academically and seems to enjoy the process of learning is simply a grind and not deserving of a placement at a prestigious/top college.
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Well because they probably are "grinders." There is no need for these students to attend top colleges because "grinders" tend to lack the capacity to be creative thinkers. They are typically focused on "grinding" out results and are typically less concerned with learning and being innovative.</p>
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Naive of me perhaps but I thought the true purpose of higher education was the seeking of knowledge and learning -- not extracurriculars.
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This is not a logical progression at all. I would also agree that your statement is abit naive because you are narrowly defining "education." College is about education in the broader sense. It's about preparing people for the real world. Also, people who do extracurriculars that genuinely interest them rather than to get into selective colleges do receive the benefit of being more educated and ready for the real world.</p>
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Why isn't a proven track record of success at the seeking of knowledge in high school considered a sufficient passion to qualify for the very best schools in our country?
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Because there are not enough spots. </p>
<p>Also getting A's and a good SAT scores are in no way the same thing as seeking knowledge. Doing extracurriculars and pursuing hobbies, however, can be seen as seeking knowledge, so I guess you actually agree with the status quo.</p>
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Why instead is there this need for a passion for 1 or more extracurriculars which may or may not having anything to do with seeking knowledge?
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If you have no passions what business do you have wanting to go to a prestigious school? Why not go to a state school? </p>
<p>The whole point of going to a prestigious university is to be given opportunities to pursue your passions. Most of the kids who are admitted to prestigious schools generally have a passion that will benefit the larger society, which, in case you did not know, is a good thing.</p>
<p>I think your problem is that you think that you see attending a prestigious school as an opportunity for an individual to benefit themselves. Your "passion" is probably is to be "successful" aka make a ridiculous amount of money.</p>