<p>Here's the thing that has been irritating the back of my mind once I started down the college admissions path with my first child. As my children were growing up, I (and I assume like many of my peer parents) encouraged my children to do as well as possible in school assuming college admissions was a meritocracy. I assumed those with the best grades would get into the best schools. </p>
<p>In reality, since many colleges are seeking, a "well rounded class of individuals", college admissions are more based upon the whims of the individual college and are NOT based on a meritocracy of grades as they are in many other parts of the world such as India. I think this leaves alot of parents and students confused. I think alot of parents and students feel mislead at the end of the process. If you didn't attain the college placement of choice it feels as if you have lied to your child for most of their life. This is an awful feeling. My first did attain his desired school but the empathy I felt for his peers who didn't was real and palpable. The rejections said more about the schools applied to than about the students.</p>
<p>The other thing that really confuses, and bothers me, is this idea often stated on this board that the student who merely studies hard, does very well academically and seems to enjoy the process of learning is simply a grind and not deserving of a placement at a prestigious/top college. Naive of me perhaps but I thought the true purpose of higher education was the seeking of knowledge and learning -- not extracurriculars. Why isn't a proven track record of success at the seeking of knowledge in high school considered a sufficient passion to qualify for the very best schools in our country? Why instead is there this need for a passion for 1 or more extracurriculars which may or may not having anything to do with seeking knowledge?</p>